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June 19th, 2009, 08:27 AM
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We are really leaning in this direction. I've done a lot of research online, but we will probably not start the classes and work towards the home study for about two more years. We want our biological children to be older first, especially my baby who is only 16 months old.

We have discussed adoption for the entire seven years of our marriage, but have always been discouraged for one reason or another. The travel and expense required of many international adoptions seem overwhelming, and we've worried about meeting the different needs of a child who has been in foster care.

However, we now have some parenting experience under our belt and I have spent the lass several years getting my degree in Early Childhood Education with a certification to work with special needs children. So I guess it is all seeming so much more manageable and possible. If we go forward wit this plan my dh is going to go ahead and get a vasectomy, so we are quite literally putting all our eggs in one basket. We have both always wanted a big family, and although our children are healthy, they were born at 31, 29, and 27 weeks. So it would probably not be a good idea to try again.

Neither of us are set on a certain age, although we have heard it would be better to adopt in order. Does that mean a child younger than my oldest? Or a child younger that my youngest? I'm hoping these are things the social worker can help us decide when the time comes. We are also not concerned about race or gender, although if I had a choice I think I would like a brother for my son. I feel like we could managed most mild disabilities, and perhaps moderate ones as well. Once again, I think this is something the social worker could determine with us. We're especially interested in taking a sibling group of two..I wish we could take more really, but I feel like two is most realistic with already having three children in our home.

I know we have a long way to go, but we're pretty excited about this! And I know the time will just fly right by, as it always does when you have little children in your home.

Oh, and I've gone back and read a lot of your stories on this forum. Its so interesting and heartwarming to hear how all your families have come together.
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June 19th, 2009, 08:57 AM
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4 out of 6 of my kiddos are adopt from foster care.

Leigh/Brandon came to us at ages 4/6 in April 2007, and we adopted them in Sept 2008.

Traci came at aged 13 and parental rights were terminated years ago she was a bounced around foster kid. We adopted her in April.

Suzie who is a special needs baby - her bio mom terminated rights 2 weeks after her birth , came to us in Feb of this year and we are waiting for her paperwork to be signed by the judge.

Our other 2 boys Kyle/Luke, happened when my god daughter asked if we would adopted her pregnancy , and there were 2 not 1! They were born in Jan, and as of 3-31 they became ours.

Since you already have kiddos, I think a lot depends on them too. The only issue we have with bringing in an older kiddo is Miss Leigh went from being the oldest to now one of the middle kiddos and shes got item envy of everything that the teen has.

To help them all adjust, we have a wonderful therapist.
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July 11th, 2009, 02:22 PM
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I'm late in responding, but we did! Our oldest three are a sibling group adopted after being in foster care for two years. Good luck! It's a great ride!
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August 14th, 2009, 12:30 PM
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My husband and I are actually in the process of doing this. We are halfway through our classes and preparing to start our homestudy.
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August 14th, 2009, 01:16 PM
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My husband and I are in the beginning stages of adopting from foster care. We just completed our second meeting and it was a real eye opener. I couldn't believe some of the things the parents have done to these poor children. They truly need more foster/adoptive parents. My class started out with about 40 people and now we are down to about 20. That was after the first meeting. The instructor told us that this program wasn't for everyone...and apparently it was not. There were people in there that just wanted money, people in there that thought they could walk out with a child without doing paper work...you name it, I've seen it now. It truly is a "paper pregnancy". There are a lot of steps and hard work but the end result is a beautiful child that needs you. It has personally changed my mind a lot, I went from wanting 3 to now wanting as many as my home and finances will allow I hope everything works out for you!
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