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Hi, I have never been on this board before. I am on the September ddc board. But the advice I am needing is about adoption. My husband and I have been married for 3 years and he adopted my daughter 2 years ago. At the time she was 3 years old. Her biological dad signed his rights over when she was 2. My husband is the only daddy she has ever known and they both love each other so much. You would never know she wasn't his biologically.
The thing is she is fixing to be 6 years old in August. We want to tell her everything soon because we want her to hear it from us and not someone else. All of our family and friends know and their children and we don't want it to slip out.
I need some advice on how to bring this up and what to say to her. I have looked for stepparent adoption books but can't find any. All of them are books where both parents adopt. Her biological dad was in her life them 1st two years off and on, so I have pics of him at the hospital when she was born and some up to her 2nd birthday. I also did a pregnancy scrapbook and his pics are in there, so I plan on using them pics to help her understand a little better. I am just so nervous about this and my husband is dreading it also. We just don't know how to bring it up and what to say.
Please help with any suggestions or books or anything that you may think will help. Thanks
Someone else recently asked this question and I went back to find the thread so I could give you the name of the only book I know of on the subject of stepparent adoption. It's called Joining Together: Jo's Story, by Sheila Byrne, Leigh Chambers, and Sarah Rawlings. However, it's published by a British Press house. You can still get it here on Amazon but it's about $35 for the paperback. ISBN # is: 978-1-873868-67-6.
Here is a link to a site that will let you write your own story, although it's a bit pricey.