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My dh is in the military and we move about every four years. His tour could always end early as well, but four years is most likely the maximum. We would like to adopt from foster care, and were originally of thinking of starting the process in two years or so. We're transfering next year though, so now we are thinking tha maybe we should start as soon as we arrive at our new location, so we can allow ourselves as much time as possible before moving.
I guess my main question is - Can you move a foster child with you? Particularly out of state? What if you are in the process of adopting them? I guess in my mind, the worst case scenerio would be that we would foster a child who we hoped to adopt, and then the process would take longer than we thought and the state wouldn't allow us to take them with us. Another adoption would be to try to be placed with a child who is already legally free for adoption, but I'm still not sure how long that whole process would take.
On a side note...how long does it usually take to get through the training, home study, and licensing? I know it must vary, but I find it hard to do any research since we don't even know where we are moving yet. We should get orders sometime around February, and then move in early summer. If the process of getting licensed, placed with a child, and finalizing the adoption is going to take several years we could be getting started as early as next summer or fall. Exciting!
I've heard of many military families who are foster parents. One I can remember in particular was in the process to adopt their child when her husband was transferred. They could not take this child out of state before the finalization was complete, but it was less than a month until completion. So, mom and the kids rented a hotel (one of the suites) and stayed until it was done.
Others have been able to take the child because adoption was almost complete, but had to return to the state they started in to complete the adoption.
I think it depends A LOT on your social workers and such. Generally, if you have a foster child, you will not be allowed to take them out of state permanently. If it isn't very far, that could be waived, however. There isn't one true answer I'm afraid.
Our process from start to finish on the liscensing took 7 months. That was from the day we sent in our application to the day we got our liscense in the mail. After that, actually getting the child could take much longer or be super fast. I'd get started as soon as you move. You could have your child within a year or two, but it could take longer.
Thanks for your reply! I read it to my dh, so now we'll at least have a basic idea how things will go down. Hopefully we'll be able to find more out once we get orders. I'm such a planner so all these "unknowns" can be hard for me! And that seems to come with military life in general - not to mention the adoption process.