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August 21st, 2009, 04:54 AM
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Hi ladies. I'm Paige, 27, and have been looking into adoption. Just after a few sites I'm totally overwhelmed. A little background first. DH and I have been TTC our first for 9 cycles now. I was told last month that the chances of us being able to conceive were very slim. I'm waiting on a fertility specialist for the final diagnosis but have started looking into adoption to see what our options are. I was looking at the international adoption because I figured domestic would be more than we could afford and am amazed at how much the international is. I'm scared to even look at domestic. I've been looking into federal and/or state help and keep reading conflicting things. Are there any good sites that explain everything?
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August 21st, 2009, 06:41 AM
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I have 6 adopted kids all domestic adoptions. 2 were a private adoption where I knew the birth mom, 2 from a faith based agency, and 2 from DFACS (social services). There is adoption help available from most states, plus a tax credit when the adoption is final. The costs varied on each child, but none exceeded the adoption credit limit of 10K from the IRS. I would check to see what the foster to adopt track from your state would be like usually it is at little or no cost.
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August 21st, 2009, 08:03 AM
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Domestic private adoptions are cheaper than international for sure! I'm a foster to adopt mommy. That's basically free. I see you are an auburn fan (roll tide), are you from Alabama? I can answer a lot of questions about Alabama.
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August 21st, 2009, 08:33 AM
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Yes I'm from Alabama. DH is military and we are stationed overseas right now. We move back in December and I'm trying to learn everything now, not wait until we get home. I've always been under the impression that international were cheaper for some reason.
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August 21st, 2009, 12:19 PM
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I did a lot of research before we started the process and domestic is much cheaper. You have a lot more paperwork that has to filed and then travel costs more. We are actually adopting through foster care because the only cost to us is fingerprinting and physicals. Everything else is paid for by the state. There are grants you can look at and the adoption credit. We just couldn't come up with that kind of money up front. We found around here in Oklahoma we were looking at $15,000+-$30,000+ for a domestic. Twice that for international.
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August 21st, 2009, 08:31 PM
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I'm in Canada, but we did a private, direct, domestic adoption which was significantly cheaper than international.
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August 22nd, 2009, 06:07 PM
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I found some agencies in Alabama that were around $15K for the adoption expenses but that didn't include the medical bills for the parents... that depended on the birth parents' insurance and such. I didn't look too far into private adoption though since having a newborn wasn't terribly important to me and I wanted to foster too.

In Alabama for foster care you must first take classes (called MAPP). They are 30 hours (3 hours per week for 10 weeks) and both you and your husband must attend all the classes. During that time you fill out a LOAD of paperwork and get fingerprints done and background checks and etc. etc. But if you stay on it, at the end of the 10 weeks you can be registered and liscensed as an adoptive and/or foster home.

I hope you find the place you want to adopt from if that is where you are led!
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August 24th, 2009, 07:21 PM
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Hello and welcome, hon! DH and I are in the process of foster-to-adopt (after 9 years of infertility) and just like Beth said, it is basically free to adopt through DSS. I always recommend the Dave Thomas Foundation website for research on this option. Good Luck and please KUP!!
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