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My son is being adopted by my husband. We have been to court a couple times already, once to file, and a second time to petition for alternate service, since we have no idea where his natural father lives. Then we went the third time this last week and the homestudy was set up with a court investigator. She is coming on thursday. I am so nervous, I wondered what to expect. I was also wondering about the questions the judge will ask on the adoption date. I would love to know what to expect so I am not winging it as much. Our next court date is october 2, and we were told that was the big day. This has been so tough, we couldnt afford a lawyer, so I have spen hours in the law library figuring out how to do it myself.
I'm so glad you're here - I still check up on you and your beautiful lil girl in your DDC from time-to-time. Of course, you're welcome here! DH and I had our homestudy in April to adopt through foster care and believe me, I worried myself sick about that visit. It was all for nothing, too, because the entire visit was wonderful. For us, she was looking for a clean (but not sterile) home that would be safe and welcoming for a child (i.e. no guns, matches, cleaners or meds within reach of any little hands). She checked for smoke detectors in the bedrooms, a fire extinguisher in the kitchen and made sure there was a bed in the child's room. (She said she'd been to homes where parents-to-be tried to convince her that a child would enjoy sleeping on the love seat in the living room.) Then she played with our little dog and she left. It was over in fifteen, maybe twenty minutes tops. (We did our personal interviews at her office.)
Anyway, I was nervous for nothing and I'm sure your visit will be just as nice. There is a very kind woman on this board who told me something that got me through that entire morning before the visit - she said, just remember, they want to rule you IN, not rule you out. Your DH is obviously a wonderful father and you are a wonderful mother and she will see that and it will be FINE.
I'll be thinking about you, hon. Please KUP and Good Luck!!
Jessa, married to Blake these past fourteen years. Beginning the adoption process.
Hiya Jenny!! That's so exciting that your DH is going to adopt your son! Congratulations to you all. I hope is goes quite smoothly.
The homestudy is really no big deal. They just want to make sure that everything is safe and normal for a child. And they want to be sure that your interactions are good with him. Did they request that you all be home at the time? I'm not sure how stepparent adoptions are, but we all had to be there at the time of the homestudy to do interviews too.
I am not positive, but I'm pretty sure, that the judge will ask your husband if he will love and care for your son just as he were his biological son. Taking all the responsibilities of a parent that are due to your son. I'm not sure they ask much more if all your paperwork is there.
It seems like you are in a GREAT place and have already done a lot of homework!
They did ask that us all be home. I have been going crazy cleaning my house. I never did finish the remodeling we were doing when I went into the hospital. And the twins room was our storage room and I never found spots for all that crap either, LOL. Boy I regret it now.