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February 3rd, 2010, 06:32 AM
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Hi,

I'm not quite at the adoption stage yet, as i'm still currently having fertility treatment. But my partner and I have discussed adoption as another option. I know theyll be a waiting period after treatment finishes to pursue the adoption route.

However, I have had depression in the past. It's not been crippling, Ive always had a full time job, were financially stable and have plenty of room for a little (or bigger!) one. We specifically moved to a three bedroom house for having children, but unfortunately, it hasnt happened for us naturally and we are on the NHS waiting list for a cycle of IVF (in the UK). I have been on medication on and off for a few years now. I'm currently on low dose anti depressants, but that's really down to the stress of the fertility treatment.

Anyway. I'd be grateful if someone would be able to tell me where i could get some info about how much of a barrier this will be to potentially adopt? Would i have to start the process of adoption so the SW could look at my medical records and make a decision then? I know we aren't in the process yet, but I'd rather know now if it's not going to be an option for us because of my medical history. I suppose the rules will vary from country to country, but if anyone could offer their advice or experiences Id be grateful.

I've spoken to my GP, who recommended I speak to some adoption agencies to find out more. But, I cannot find anything specific, just that it may not be a straight forward adoption for us. I suppose every case is considered individually. But, I dont want to get my hopes up and think wed be able to, only to find out we cant. Id rather know now what all our options are.

Any thoughts or info would be great. Sorry for the long post
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February 3rd, 2010, 12:02 PM
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I do not think that depression in itself will rule you out as an adoptive parent. At least not in the US. I dont know much about UK adoption processes. I can't see it ruling you out though. Most places want to find parents who want to adopt and work hard to "rule you IN" not out.

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February 3rd, 2010, 02:41 PM
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If you are adopting internationally, it really depends on the country. For example, Korea is pretty strict about it but your agency can work around it. Other countries, not so much. I would contact an agency and discuss it with them. Plus, your doctor can provide a letter that may spin it in a certain way too.
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February 4th, 2010, 11:17 AM
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thanks for the info girls. If we deceided to adopt it would be a domestic one. It's a long way off us making the intial approach, but i'd just rather know now if we wouldn't be able to. It seems from the info i've got from the net, we'd have to make our application before we could find out. Which is upsetting as i don't want to get my hopes up only to find we can't.
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