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March 1st, 2010, 07:19 AM
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Adoption is something that has been close to my heart for years...I would love to add to our family via adoption someday. But everything I've read online points to it being a terribly expensive process - which definitely excludes us for the foreseeable future. We're financially able to add another child to our family, but not to spend thousands upon thousands in the process. Is this *always* the case? If not, can someone point me to some good info to read about it? Maybe I'm just finding the wrong stuff!
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March 1st, 2010, 04:48 PM
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Adoption can be very expensive. You should call around to agencies in your area to see how much their fees are. They vary a lot from place to place. However, if you go through the foster care system it is often paid for by the state. Also keep in mind that there is a tax credit for adoption fees. It was up to 10,000 when we adopted my daughter, but I think it might be a little more now.
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March 1st, 2010, 06:56 PM
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Super cheap to free to adopt a child through the foster system. Depends on if you are dead set on a baby or if you don't mind adopting a child who might be a few years old.
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March 2nd, 2010, 10:04 AM
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depends on how you do it. Up here in Canada, international will cost roughly $10-20k, private agencies roughly $8k, the twins' adoption last year was a private direct adoption (family found us) and through a lawyer it cost us $2k, and Elizabeth was our last adoption last month and we did it all ourselves and it cost us $215.
I think the big costs come in paying "head-hunters" and legal fees. If you can find your own child, and the parents agree to sign consents for adoption, I think its alot cheaper. I know nothing about fostering since we didn't do that at all.
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March 2nd, 2010, 08:04 PM
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Thanks, ladies. DH and I have only really discussed international adoption, but everything I read about them require thousands of dollars and tons of travel. That doesn't seem to be an option for us. I have considered fostering, but I'm not sure I could stand the heartbreak of letting the child go when it was time...
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March 3rd, 2010, 09:08 AM
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As far as I've read, international adoption is the most expensive by far. There are many fees that go into adopting adopting internationally. There are many organizations that can help offset the costs and many people do fundraisers for the money as well.

Foster care is where my heart is. It's hard to say goodbye (I just had to say goodbye to a sibling set of 3 I had for a number of months). But at the same time I love to see how they grow and change as they are in my home. They have stability and love and their family has time to get themselves together and provide a much better home for them. But you CAN adopt straight from foster care. In other words, there are many children waiting to be adopted already. They are what is called "free for adoption" at this time, so you don't have to worry about them being "taken away." It's just another option to look into.
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March 5th, 2010, 04:20 PM
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We've been considering adoption for a while, and the more I looked into it the more I was convinced to go with Foster care/adoption. We have an agency locally that works with finding foster parents, specifically for toddlers and infants. They provide training and support, and their goal is for the child to stay with one family the entire time they are in foster care. Their website says about 50% of the children end up going back the their birth parents, the other half are adopted, and if you want to adopt a child you foster, the agency assists you. I'm not sure if there are places like this were you live, but it may be worth looking into.

edited to add a link: Angels Foster Family Network of San Diego
this is the San Diego one, which I guess is the original. They may have info about similar programs in other parts of the country.
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March 11th, 2010, 02:28 PM
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We adopted and the agency that we went through worked on a sliding scale. So depending on how much you make would determine the amount you pay. We also got a grant for 3,000 which helped a lot! We spent a lot of time jumping through all of the hoops for each grant board but it was worth it in the end.
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April 1st, 2010, 05:14 PM
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I am just lurking here because I am an adopted child and I like to read about mom's that adopt because my bio mom died before we could have a real conversation...sadly. Long story anyway.

Well...I know of one agency that has very reasonable pricing for adoption ...the LDS church. I am not sure if you need to be a member to apply but I do know that my friend is a member and she adopted twice through the church and they only required 10% of a years income to do it. So...ie: if you make 60,000 a year then it would cost 6 thousand....and not all at once if I know correctly. I am not completely sure on the details but that's what I understand.....

Good luck...adoption is a wonderful and amazing thing. I would know, but only from the adopted childs perspective...
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