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April 12th, 2010, 06:42 PM
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Hi! I've just been lurking here occasionally. DH and I have been thinking and praying about possibly becoming foster and/or eventually adoptive parents and I have some questions

1) Can you request what ages of kids you want to foster?

2) Can you request to only foster children who are available for adoption? ( I'm just not sure if I could handle giving children "back" all the time after getting attached to them)

3) Do you get any financial assistance from the state for your foster children (for food, clothes, medical expenses, etc.)

Thanks! We are very new to this idea and just don't know much!
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April 14th, 2010, 04:39 AM
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The quick answers are yes, yes and yes. I can elaborate more in a while.

Welcome to our board!!

EDIT:

Ok, I have a bit more time. So, to answer your questions more fully...

1) Can you request the ages you want to foster?
Yes. In fact you'll have to fill out a very extensive list of what type of children you would be willing to take into your home. Everything from ages, to medical diagnoses, to race, etc.

2) Can you request to only foster children who are available for adoption? ( I'm just not sure if I could handle giving children "back" all the time after getting attached to them)
Yes. However, you would not really be considered "foster parents" at this stage. You would be straight adoption parents through the foster care system. The only children you would be contacted about are those who are waiting for an adoptive home and whose parents have been terminated from their lives legally.
You can also foster to adopt, but even though it looks like those kids will more than likely be going toward needing an adoptive home it is not 100% sure. My DH and I are both foster to adopt and foster parents. We have had one little boy (Lil Buddy) since July 2008 when he was 15 months old and we are still not positive if we will be able to adopt him or not. And that is SUPER hard, but it is also wonderful that we've been able to help him so much. We've seen SO much growth in him since he came to us and we've loved every minute of him being part of our lives. So, if he leaves, we will grieve hard, but we will also know we gave him the best part of us so that he can be the best he could be!

3) Do you get any financial assistance from the state for your foster children (for food, clothes, medical expenses, etc.)
Yes. If you live in the US, your foster children will be on Medicade for their insurance. DHR (or whatever the county agency is called in your area) will pick up any and all copays as well as prescription costs. You will have to find doctors and dentists that take Medicaid which isn't always the easiest, but the county can help you with that. You also receive a monthly stipend to help cover other costs. This isn't always enough to cover all the expenses you have, but it definitely helps. Usually what we say is that if you HAVE to have that check to live, it probably isn't a good idea. The government isn't exactly the most reliable to get things out on time.
Many counties have other programs to help too. For instance, here, we pay VERY little for daycare out of pocket, we have a food bank where we can get some food items and even things like washing powder once a month, a clothing closet, they'll give us diapers sometimes, car seats, etc. At Christmas we have a program where people who aren't foster parents "Adopt" a kid and buy Christmas for them. And lots of other stuff to help. It just depends on your area.

Hope that all helps!

Feel free to ask more questions on here or PM me anytime!
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