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Hello. I'm not sure if this would be the right place to post, but it was the closest I could find.
I was adopted when I was 2 years old from a foster family. I had been taken by the state at birth. It has been 18 years since I saw my foster family, I have never known my biological family. This past year I have searched and searched for my father, and I have yet to really find him. Though I know his name and where he lives I cannot contact him. Recently my foster sister found me on facebook. We have been speaking for the first time since I was 2. And her father, my foster father, also found me. I am excited, but at the same time, I'm very nervous or scared, I'm still not quite sure what these other emotions I feel are. They have spoken with and seen my father several times these past few months and have said they would help me contact him. However, I just am not quite sure yet how I feel. Deep down I want nothing more than to know who I really am and where I come from. I have felt a large part of me missing or unknown all my life. My husband urges me and supports me to learn more, and i do want to. Just, a part of me is scared that in the end i may be disappointed or let down by what i learn or how this turns out in the end.
I'm not really sure what i'm asking for here on this forum. I suppose I am more needing to say it to someone and see what they say back. If any of you have any thoughts or ideas, I would be very interested in hearing what you have to say. Thank you ahead of time.
I wish I could tell you what the right choice is, but I think only you know what is best for you in the end. My only advice is to go into any relationship you do start with him with an open mind. You are right to be nervous and scared. It's a scary thing to contact someone you have never known before. But it's also a very cool and exciting thing to reach out and you never know what could happen. This could be the absolute best thing you have ever done.
I hope that you keep us updated on how things go for you. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and wishing you the very best on this new journey!
Yet another wonderful siggy by HeatherW.... thank you so much!!!