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December 18th, 2010, 08:33 AM
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My name is Elizabeth (23) My dh is James (39) and we have a total of 4 kids. 3 boys 19,10,&8 and one girl (20mo) Dh and I have fertility issues and have to see a fertility specialist to get pregnant. Before we got pregnant with our DD We were looking into adoption because I didn't do well on the emotional rollercoaster of MA. But we decided to tey once more and we were sucessful. Now we are ready to add to our family. We would love to have another daughter but we would be happy with either. We originally thought that we wanted to do MA agian but I've been thinking that I don't want to spend thousands of dollars with no gaurantee that there will be a baby in the end. I have always wanted to adopt and I know that DH is open to it. Another thing that is pushing me toward adoption more is that I had a very difficult pregnancy and our DD was born early because I had severe pre E and I still have hbp from that. My DR tells me that I am at high rish of getting it again too. So I'm afraid to get pregnant but I don't know how we could afford adoption. I guess I'm just looking for some advice and maybe some information if anyone has some to share. Thank you!
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December 18th, 2010, 03:23 PM
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From my experience, the TTCMA was very heart breaking and so stressful. We were secretive about it for a long time ~ probably 3 years. I finally approached DH about adoption and he thankfully agreed. While our adoption was very unusual with how FAST it went, I'm happy and feel fulfilled. I love my son like I would any biological child, and we were open about our decision. That said, it's up to you. There are lots of ways to go through with an adoption and make sure you research your choices. If you want to PM me, I can write to you about our agency. THT.
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raced to the hospital to get our baby boy in August 2007, 12 days after we went "live" to adopt!
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Endometriosis surgery 01/16/09
Femara+IUI 03/09, 04/09, 05/09, 06/09 BFN's
07/09: mixture of acupuncture, herbs, hope, and prayers
09/2009~too much pain, had to go on BCP's.
06/10: Starting adoption process again!!!!!
10/13/10: Adoption paperwork done...now just pray and wait....
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December 21st, 2010, 07:55 PM
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We have a mix of both, one bio, three adopted, now pg again. Both processes will cost money and take time, but will you be okay with your last one being a non-bio sibling? Consider that vs the stress off TTCMA, and a high risk pg----I'd go straight to adoption, imo.
I've done fertility and adoption, adoption was much cheaper and mentally and physically easier for us.
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December 22nd, 2010, 12:52 PM
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thnak you. I am leaning more towards Adoption now but I think that my Dh is mopre hesitant that he was to begin with. I just can't imagine being pregnant and on bedrest with all the problems that I had last time. We still have to talk about in depth which we are going to do tonight. But I just can't see going through all the treatments again when there are babies out there just waiting for love. I'm hoping that I'll be joining this board very soon.
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