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Well in the past couple weeks I started feeling that fostering to adopt is what we should do. Where do I look for information on this-I am in southern California. How does it work? Do we take every child they want us to foster in and then request to adopt them? I'm sorry I probably sound dumb but would really like to learn about it so any information you can give would be great.
not a dumb question at all girl!! Not sure how ca does it..but im in southern AZ so not far from ya! LOL
first you do the homestudy stuff and get approved..
you will fill out forms that show what age group and race you would like to do..and as far as adoption it depends..sometimes they are already severed from parents so they might call and say we have a child in your age group race etc that has been severed do you want to adopt..and there are time limits if you say yes or no..then sometimes they will put the child in your home and if they go up for adoption you will be the first one asked..then there is foster to adopt homes where people dont take foster kids in..well they do..but they are kids that will be adopted..and that is when the only way you get a child is if he or she is already severed from the parents...and then will be place..for one reason or another the foster parents did not adopt this child..so it gets confusing sometimes..a good way to find an agency would i guess be to start with your department of human services..or dhs..in AZ its department of economic services..maybe look online..look up where to find info in your state! good luck!!
is it possible to say we only want to foster to adopt? everything i've found online makes it sound like every child in foster care is just waiting til their parents get them back,they're not available to adopt. are there any kids available 3 and under?
I'm a foster to adopt and foster parent in Alabama. I'm not sure how exactly CA does it, but this is our system. Every state is so darn different.
- Foster parents - these take in kids who are going to reunited with a family member or adopted by another home.
- Foster to Adopt parents - take in kids who are not legally free for adoption, but the case is heading toward that. It CAN and DOES change often. These kids are NOT a sure thing and first and foremost they want to reunite all kids with family. But these kids are placed in foster to adopt homes because it looks like there is not a family member who can take that child.
- Adoption through foster care - these families want the "sure thing." Some kids in foster care (many many actually) are legally free for adoption and are just waiting for the right home. Few children under three are on lists like that. Most kids are quite older, in big sibling groups or have medical issues. But, you can get amazingly wonderful kids this way too!!
If you are willing to care for children who seriously need a home. If you are willing to hurt because they won't. Then foster to adopt and fostering is definitely for you. If you don't think you can do this, it is a lot harder. But I love it.
We have to take 30 hours of training classes before becoming foster parents (it is called MAPP here.. but there is also PRIDE). We go straight through the department of human resources. We didn't want to deal with an outside agency. Some states only have agencies. Not sure about CA. Call your local child protective services. You can find numbers online. Just google "Foster parenting in [your area]" and you should come up with good results.