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So we plan on adopting a baby girl. We see her as our Carolina.(not pronounced like the state). Well we also are willing to go up to age 5(maybe later depending on when we are able to start the process) so obviously she could already be named. Would you keep the name her birth mom gave her or change it? We're pregnant right now with a girl and can't think of a name but don't want to use that because like I said,we see that as our baby girl we'll adopt.
I think at 5, the child should be given some choice. I know some children who have really wanted to change their name. They wanted to be rid of the name that "tied" them to their old lives (their words) but others have really wanted to keep their name as it was THEIR name and didn't want it to change. At age 2 or younger, I'd probably change it but keep some of their previous name. Like make Carolina her first name, but keep her other name as her middle name... even have two middle names.
My son has an unusual name. It is similar to a more "normal" name and we call him an abbreviated version that is very common. I have seriously considered changing his "full" name to the more usual version of it, but it is so much of who he is. I'm not sure.
But you ask 100 people this same question, and I'm sure you'll get 100 variances on the answer. I think you need to meet your girl and decide then.