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July 7th, 2006, 08:58 PM
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I was always a bad child I got into alot of fights with my parents and siblings so I met a bad boy that smoked drinked and stayed out all night we dated for 2yrs at that time I know I was really stupid he was very abusive mentally and physically I was only 18 when we met. One day I noticed my period was missing so we went and got a test and I took it and it was + I was scared half to death because of the situation I was in I dont believe in abortion so I knew that was out of the question when he found out I was in fact pregnant he demanded me not to tell anyone about my pregnancy so I stayed quiet even when I was growing my friends didnt say anything until one day I was throwing up and crying at that time I was 31 weeks pregnant and havent gone to the dr when my friends found out I was pregnant they demanded that I tell my boyfriend that I needed to get to the dr which he wouldnt take me to my friend took me they told me I had alot of protein in my urine and I did the 24 hour test. The same day my friend mentioned adoption I was open to it because I knew I couldnt bring a child into the way I was living we went to a place called Catholic Charities and met with a WONDERFUL woman who gave me some profiles to look at I looked at 1 and I knew I found the right couple they had a misscarriage of triplets 3yrs before this and they just looked like a really loving couple who deserve to be parents we agreed to meet up the next week. 2 days later I went back to the dr and she said nothing has has changed that I was being admitted to the hospital because of pre-eclampsia I was 32 weeks right at that time I was scared out of my mind! I welcomed him into the world that night at 10:25pm via emergency c-section he was only 3lbs 12 oz he was sooooooo tiny I got to hold him the next day since I had the c-section and he was in the NICU. 2 days later the adoption agency came in and talked to me about signing the papers it was the hardest thing in the world but I knew I couldnt do it the couple were down in the hospital lobby waiting to meet us at this time about 10 minutes after I met the couple I knew they were the ones ( I knew from seeing there profile but this brought more closure to me) and I signed the papers right away I got to hand him over into HER arms and say here is your son. the next day I spent about 5 hours in the NICU saying good bye to him(they let me see him even though I signed the papers). It was the hardest thing in the world but I know he is in a loving caring home that he is being taken care of not like I could have. Right now I have a semi open adoption where I get pictures and letters every year. Well thats my story I'm very sorry about the paragraphs i'm not really good at this but i'm getting better.
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July 9th, 2006, 03:31 AM
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I think what you did shows a lot of compassion & courage. I hope that you are very proud of yourself for deciding to give him more opportunities in this life. I hope too that you have left that abusive situation & have been able to move forward in your life. Thank you so much for choosing to share your story here & I wish you all the best!
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July 9th, 2006, 10:58 AM
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I think you are amazing and a very stong and courageous woman. You gave a family the most wonderful gift in the world. I pray some day I will be lucky enough to find a bmom like you. I wish you much happiness in the world, thanks for sharing your story.
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July 9th, 2006, 03:09 PM
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I have left that idiot right after I got out of the hospital he was gone i'm now with a wonderful guy we have been married 3 yrs and we have a 2 1/2 yr old
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July 9th, 2006, 03:48 PM
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I am so glad that you are happy, what a wonderful gift you gave someone, and in return you now have a wonderful family as well!
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July 9th, 2006, 07:10 PM
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I am so glad everything seems to have worked out so well for you! It really is awesome!
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We've begun to raise daughters more like sons... but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters. ~Gloria Steinem

If a man has been his mother's undisputed darling he retains throughout life the triumphant feeling, the confidence in success, which not seldom brings actual success along with it. ~Sigmund Freud
My mom is a neverending song in my heart of comfort, happiness, and being. I may sometimes forget the words but I always remember the tune. ~Graycie Harmon
Don't wait to make your son a great man - make him a great boy. ~Author Unknown
You don't raise heroes, you raise sons. And if you treat them like sons, they'll turn out to be heroes, even if it's just in your own eyes. ~Walter M. Schirra, Sr.
A man loves his sweetheart the most, his wife the best, but his mother the longest. ~Irish Proverb
Mother's love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved. ~Erich Fromm
Children need love, especially when they do not deserve it. - Harold Hulbert
Mother is the name for God in the lips and hearts of little children. ~William Makepeace Thackeray
God could not be everywhere, so he created mothers. ~Jewish Proverb
The best conversations with mothers always take place in silence, when only the heart speaks. ~Carrie Latet




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July 18th, 2006, 10:52 AM
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Hi. My name is Jess and I have a 15 month old daughter who I placed into an open adoption at birth.
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August 8th, 2006, 08:24 PM
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What a wonderful gift you gave to someone else. I am so glad you are happy and with someone who truly cares for you.
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September 4th, 2006, 04:14 PM
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I'm so proud of you for the decision you made. I'm also a birthmom and know it takes alot of courage and love to make that choice. (((HUGS))) to you. There's a great Birthmom site if you're interested. Lots of support and love from ladies who have been there and experienced all we've gone thru.
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September 11th, 2006, 10:29 AM
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As someone who was adopted a week after I was born, I thank you for your selflessness. I pray that the son you gave up is as blessed as I have been with wonderful adoptive parents.

Thanks for sharing your story!
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