[pmdc5286]

Hi ladies! I am looking for some advice before I get my sister's hopes up only to have them crushed because the situation is not possible and I hope maybe you can help me.

My husband is adopted. His biological mom adopted a daughter who is now 19 and pregnant. She wants to put the child up for adoption. She is 9 weeks along. My sister and her husband have tried unsuccessfully for 8 yrs to have a child. They are looking into adoption and have been for several years. DH's sister is willing to let my sis and BIL adopt her child if it is possible to do this without an agency and lots of costs involved? The major drawback is we live in GA and DHs family live in Michigan.

What are your thoughts on this?

Thanks in advance!!!!

[Mommy_of_7_Angels]

My first suggestion is to look at the laws in those states. Some states allow private adoption and some don't. This can be as easy as calling a family law lawyer and asking.

Do you think there is any chance of the girl changing her mind in the next several months? It's still early and many do change their mind once they get past the shock of being pregnant.

[LucyLoved]

It should be possible. Would likely require adoptive Mom traveling to birth Mom's state, and staying there with the newborn until the state clears her to cross state lines with him/her. You will need to look up the laws. If they are already looking into adoption, then they should already be prepared for the possibility of any birth Mom to change their mind, so that should not be a deciding factor in telling them or not, IMO.