[~*Kudzu*~]

Hello. I usually hang out over in AIP, but the time has come to introduce myself here. I am Shilo, DH is Trevor and we have 3 beautiful "homemade" children, ages 13, 10, and 8. We have been trying to have more for the past 4 years and been unsuccessful. Over that time we have lost 2 confirmed pregnancies, for a total of 5 losses, the most recent being last October. Fast forward to about 6 weeks ago....
An impromptu day of snowmachine riding found my family and a group of friends resting in the garage after we finished and my friend was checking her phone. She says "hey, I just got this message that asked if I knew of anyone looking to adopt a baby". (Understand, we are both nurses and it happens more often than you would think that we get "word of mouth" adoption requests). DH and I had not talked about this, had not considered this, but the words "I WANT IT" fell out of my mouth. So, the next morning, she put us in contact with the birthmother, who I started out texting with, then talking to, then having dinner with, then meeting the rest of my family. End result? We have a match and my baby is due in June!!!
We meet with the attorney this coming week and I plan to surprise her with a 3d ultrasound the same day.
I am over the moon excited about this, as is the rest of my family. My father even started crying when i called to tell them we were adopting, he was so happy.
I guess I'm just here to have support and get any advice I can on the process from others who have gone through it.
I do realize that my situation was a little unorthodox and that it may upset some people due to the ease of it. I know that many couples wait YEARS and spend thousands on attempting to adopt. I do sympathize, but I will not apologize. Please, nothing negative, I'm here for support, just like everyone else.

[MindyRambo]

Congratulations! I wish you all the luck in the world, adoption is a very beautiful thing.

I would urge you for your own protection to not assume anything is 100% even if you do have a match. The prospective birth mother doesn't sign any papers until after the baby is born, and has time to process whether this is what she really wants. I don't think this will upset anyone who thinks it came to you with ease, because I think you will find when all is said and done that adoption is anything but easy. Please take this time to read everything you possibly can find about adoption. From adoptive parents experiences, to birth mother and adoptee experiences. You will discover a whole new world.

I'm happy for you, I really am, but do you feel you have had the time to grieve your loss and the loss of your fertility? I just think you need to protect your feelings and your family's. I hope your dad understands he can be excited, but that nothing is set in stone until the final decision which will be after the birth (at least several days to heal so the prospective birth mother doesn't feel coerced by hormones... etc)

Best of luck to you, I really hope everything works out. Are you planning an open adoption?

[Srae]

Oh my gosh that's wonderfull news!! I am so happy for your family!! God sure does have his ways!!

[fromfivetosix]

Congratulations! That is so exciting. I do agree with MindyRambo above though, guard your heart, things do not always work out no matter how much we hope they will but at the same time, we will send all of our wishes and prayers for you and the expectant mom! Best of luck!

Stephanie
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