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I just thought I would introduce myself since hubby and I are looking into adoption. My name is Melissa. I am 25, married (DH is 28) and a stay at home mother to our 4 children. (Ages 6, 4, and 2 year old twins). I had my tubes tied after the twins were born. I had a difficult labor with Hannah (emergency c-section since I went into labor early the day of my scheduled c-section) and my uterus almost ruptured. Then I went on to carry the twins and I didn't want to risk another pregnancy after that, so I had my tubes tied and hubby had a vasectomy a few months later. (Although he never went in for the follow up LOL)
I've always wanted to adopt and I knew that if I regretted my tubal, that option was always there for us. I've been feeling the pull to adopt more and more lately, and DH finally agreed to it. So we are just starting to look into things. I've been looking into agencies in our area and looking over different programs. We are not sure what we want, an international or a domestic. I was all for domestic, but I am getting pulled towards an international one right now. I found out that my brother in laws girlfriend works for an adoption agency (which we knew but we thought she just did Russian adoptions). I guess she handles Guatemala adoptions and I have been looking over that program. BIL said there's was a really nice program down there.
Has anyone ever done a Guatemala adoption?
How bad is the paperwork seriously? I hear there is a lot!
Also, how is the homestudy? I think that makes me nervous the most. I worry that they will find something they don't like about us, and we won't be able to adopt.
Hi Melissa and welcome to the group! I'm Marla, mom of 4, 2 bio sons and 2 cuties from China. I don't know much about Guatemala, but I know our agency (Holt International) works with families adopting from there. As far as the paperwork goes, well, there's a lot with any adoption, but you get through it, one piece at a time. As you complete each document, you know you're one step closer to your child, and that's what keeps you going.
Our home studies weren't bad at all. Our social worker was very nice and focused her effort on helping us with the adoptions rather than trying to find something wrong with us. You guys are a very experienced parents (how on earth do you do it with twins? ), so I'm sure you have nothing to worry about.
Good luck getting started and please check in often and let us know how it's going!
I am glad that you are joining us. I am doing a domestic adoption through our state Deptartment of Social Services. We are going to adopt a newborn baby. We are currently trying to get the last little bit of paper work done to start our inspections. I am hoping that all of this adoption caos will fly by in no time. Everyone says that it is a lot easier than it sounds but I am a worry wart. LOL Everyone here has been a great help and support to me. I wish that I could answer your questions but I am new to all of this too. Ask all the questions that you want to because I am sure that someone here can answer them. Good Luck and please keep us updated.