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I've posted here in the past about the possibility of us adopting a couple of older children (siblings?) in about 10 years. I want to start doing my homework now. Ben is 1. He'll be 3 (Lord willing) when #2 comes along. The thought is that when the kids are appx 10, we'd adopt 2 more kids who are also appx 8-10. I know that when older children are placed for adoptions it's usually because of some terrible circumstance in their life, and that when possible, siblings are placed with the same family. Can anyone direct me to websites that give more details than that. Domestic or International... I don't care. If it matters, I'm in Texas.
EDIT... I just found adoptuskids.org. Would like to find more. Sadly, I fell in love with two little boys there 10 years too soon. We're not ready to adopt just yet.
We adopted our oldest daughter at 5 3/4, and it has been absolutely incredible experience. If we were to adopt again, I would definitely go for an older child.
A couple of books I recommend are "Helping Children Cope with Separation and Loss" and "Adopting the Older Child" both by Claudia Jewett Jarratt. They kind of present worst case scenarios, but there are so many unknowns in adopting older kids that I think it's important to be ready for anything. Our motto was prepare for the worst, and hope for the best (and we were blessed to have just about the best experience possible). There are also lots on online support groups for older child adoption, and it is so helpful to talk with parents who have BTDT.