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with all this discussion going on regarding the "fake" member in TTC and whether or not her adoption story is even real can I just say this.............
1) please people (collective people) quit saying "unwanted baby." Just because someone is not prepared for a child or can't raise it doesn't mean they don't want it. Remember this is a human living being, the words we use to describe someone can impact them greatly.
2) ditto goes for unloved. No child is unloved. Period.
3) Adoption laws vary from state to state and frequently change. The amount of misconceptions out there astound me. But not as much as the number of people who think they know what they are talking about. I'm not a plumber, I can't tell you why your pipes are leaking.
4)Adoption is a process. A permanent legal exchange of parental rights from one to another. It is serious, it is sacred. It can not be done on a whim nor should it be taken lightly.
I was very sad and to be honest, angered, at the news that we had been duped by someone "faking" here. I totally agree that we need to be sensitive in our language about adoption and careful about the advice we dispense. I can't tell you how many people have said ridiculous and untrue things to me about adoption right in front of my daughters!
I was very sad and to be honest, angered, at the news that we had been duped by someone "faking" here. I totally agree that we need to be sensitive in our language about adoption and careful about the advice we dispense. I can't tell you how many people have said ridiculous and untrue things to me about adoption right in front of my daughters![/b]
Hopping in from MM..
But I agree. My best friend adopted a 3 year old from Guatemala last year. People have said to her face how sad it is to see all these unloved/unwanted kids being adopted. She get so mad. I personaly have not been through the process, but plan to in the future. I have a good idea and know what you are talking about the "faker". Even though there are laws that very by states lots of stuff in their posts didn't add up.
I'm also just lurking, but it makes me sad/mad to know someone would lie about something like that.
It's sick how so many people don't know much about adoption, and how some people are against it! It disgusts me. My parents have adopted my little sister and brother from China. On our most recent trip to China, there was a lady who went off on my mother for adopting from another race!! I was glad I was not around, because I would have done something, that isn't like me. How dare people say things like that! Especially infront of Elli, and Wes.