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June 11th, 2007, 05:31 PM
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Hi everyone, This can be a very special time, thinking of adopting. There's a lot involved with it however. I was actually adopted at birth, I'm now 23 with a family of my own. I recently got in contact with my biological mother. I just wanted to post this up here, so if anyone has any questions about what its like, maybe I can help.....
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June 12th, 2007, 07:52 AM
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Welcome to the board! How did the meeting go? Did you only meet on the phone, or have you met in person yet?
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June 12th, 2007, 11:19 AM
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We only talked on the phone.....We talked a lot and for about 4 months, when you're adopted you have to prepare yourself mentally for a meeting, even though nothing can fully prepare you. My personal situation was really strange, as my mother had a child before me, my older brother who is 2 years older than me, and also had another daughter after me and they kept both. Also they werent really honest with me, so it made it really hard. Also my biological mother married my biological father and my younger sister is my full blood sister. I think it's really important for an adopted child to know he/she is adopted. My adoptive family never kept it from me, they always told me, even before i really understood what it meant. A child who knows they are adopted usually will want to know about their biological family, and as far as I know most meetings don't turn out as we had hoped. The best thing an adoptive parent can do is be supportive. Thanks for welcoming me. If anyone has anymore questions I'm more than happy to share my stoy with you . Thanks everyone!
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June 12th, 2007, 02:22 PM
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Wow. Did your bio mom tell you why she didn't keep you? I hope to adopt a couple of old kids (siblings) in a few years. I know it'll probably be a tough transition.
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June 12th, 2007, 07:58 PM
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Well, they lied a lot about it. I never really got a straight answer from them. I just assumed at this point that if they lied the truth would probably be worse. So I didn't really push at all. There was a lot of stuff that didn't make sense. I also talked with my older brother and he had a different story then they did. They also never ever told anyone that they were pregnant with me. The first anyone including my grand parents ever knew of me is when they received a letter from the adoption agency saying that I was looking to contact them. That was right after I turned 21. In NH which is where i was adopted, you must be 21 before you can request any information regarding your birth parents, and even then the agency has to track your birth parents down and they need to sign a release form, then the agency will send both parties contact info.
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June 13th, 2007, 07:26 AM
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Wow, thanks for being so open to questions and for sharing your story. I think it will greatly benefit all of us to have you on this board. Oh, and welcome by the way, I'm Marla, mom of 4, including 2 bio boys and 2 daughters from China.

I look forward to getting to know you better!
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