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September 5th, 2007, 03:42 PM
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Hello! My husband and I are trying to conceive our first child. I'm not sure if we can have children. But, I do know that I would like to adopt a child from Korea in the future. I am half Korean and I would love to adopt a biracial baby from Korea. There is a lot of stigma with biracial children in Korea and I would love to give one of them a wonderful home life. My mother actually gave up my half brother for adoption to an American almost a decade before I was even born. Part of the reason she gave him up was because she was no longer able to take care of him and because life was becoming harder for him and she didn't want him to have to face any stigma for the rest of his life--he was 4 years old. This hurt her so much and we have never and probably never will be able to locate him. I'm nearing 24 years old and I just want to get all of my eggs in order before we decide to take that big step. My husband and I own our own home and have two new cars. Financially, we are more stable than a lot of people are age. Nonetheless, at this time, I think that the cost would put too much strain on us. Have any of you adopted from Korea before? What kinds of things did you guys prepare for when adopting internationally? I've seen many websites, but I would like to hear some personal experiences. Any advice is appreciated .
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September 5th, 2007, 07:26 PM
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Korea was our country of choice for a long time. We had sent our application in to the agency, but then found out about three kiddos up for adoption here in the states!

There are many agencies to choose from. That should probably be your first big step. In order to prepare, you just need to make sure you have a stable home and meet the age and financial requirements. You must be 25 before you start the process. Other than that, the agency will walk you through everything else!! Depending on your agency, you should have a referral within 12-15 months of completing your homestudy...sometimes it happens really quickly, sometimes it takes longer...I don't really have any personal experience past knowledge. If you'd like specifics, please feel free to pm me!
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September 6th, 2007, 06:44 AM
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Hi and welcome to the group! I'm Marla, mom of 4, 2 bio sons and 2 daughters from China. The agency we used for China, Holt International, is one of the pioneers of Korean adoption, and I highly recommend you check them out. The cost can be overwhelming to see on paper, but remember, the bulk of the fees aren't due until you accept a referral, so you have time to prepare. Would you travel to Korea to get your child or have them escorted? I'm sure that makes a difference in the cost as well. And don't forget about the wonderful adoption tax credit that you can take after the adoption is final, it really helps a lot.

As far as preparation, Holt sent us a HUGE book that had just about everything we could want to know about the specifics of our adoptions, and we spent a lot of time online talking to adoptive parents. We joined several Yahoo groups while we were in process, and it really helped to pass the time and know that other families were going through the same things we were.

I wish you the best in your journey and hope that you will keep us updated on your progress!
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September 6th, 2007, 07:22 AM
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Just want to wish you luck! When we finally adopt, we'll probably go domestic, but I've also always thought about international adoptions. It's crazy to think what some children have to endure!

Check out the financial planning board as well. We've put together plans for 2 people so far to help them pay off their debts quickly and then afford adoption. Budgets, debts, and savings are our specialty, and you can always pm one of us with your information so we can post it anonymusly for you if you're uncomfortable sharing that kind of info.
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September 6th, 2007, 08:44 AM
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Hi and welcome to the group! I'm Marla, mom of 4, 2 bio sons and 2 daughters from China. The agency we used for China, Holt International, is one of the pioneers of Korean adoption, and I highly recommend you check them out. The cost can be overwhelming to see on paper, but remember, the bulk of the fees aren't due until you accept a referral, so you have time to prepare. Would you travel to Korea to get your child or have them escorted? I'm sure that makes a difference in the cost as well. And don't forget about the wonderful adoption tax credit that you can take after the adoption is final, it really helps a lot.

As far as preparation, Holt sent us a HUGE book that had just about everything we could want to know about the specifics of our adoptions, and we spent a lot of time online talking to adoptive parents. We joined several Yahoo groups while we were in process, and it really helped to pass the time and know that other families were going through the same things we were.

I wish you the best in your journey and hope that you will keep us updated on your progress![/b]
I would most likely travel to Korea with my mother. We have family there and my MIL works for Delta so I could get a few Buddy passes for the flights. Yes, the cost is very overwhelming to see on paper. I'll definitely check out Holt and see what other information I can find. How long did it take you to finalize the adoptions? What were the home studies like?
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Hi and welcome to the group! I'm Marla, mom of 4, 2 bio sons and 2 daughters from China. The agency we used for China, Holt International, is one of the pioneers of Korean adoption, and I highly recommend you check them out. The cost can be overwhelming to see on paper, but remember, the bulk of the fees aren't due until you accept a referral, so you have time to prepare. Would you travel to Korea to get your child or have them escorted? I'm sure that makes a difference in the cost as well. And don't forget about the wonderful adoption tax credit that you can take after the adoption is final, it really helps a lot.

As far as preparation, Holt sent us a HUGE book that had just about everything we could want to know about the specifics of our adoptions, and we spent a lot of time online talking to adoptive parents. We joined several Yahoo groups while we were in process, and it really helped to pass the time and know that other families were going through the same things we were.

I wish you the best in your journey and hope that you will keep us updated on your progress![/b]
I would most likely travel to Korea with my mother. We have family there and my MIL works for Delta so I could get a few Buddy passes for the flights. Yes, the cost is very overwhelming to see on paper. I'll definitely check out Holt and see what other information I can find. How long did it take you to finalize the adoptions? What were the home studies like?
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Our adoptions were finalized in China (when we met with the Provincial officials on the day after we met the girls), but I'm not sure exactly how that works in Korean adoption. We did re-adopt our girls in Texas so that they could have Texas birth certificates, but it wasn't required. Our home studies were not bad at all. We met with our social worker 3 different times, once at a restaurant and twice at our home and the meetings were very informal. She always made it clear that she was there to help us and never made us feel like she was trying to find something wrong with us. Of course, there was lots of paperwork involved, but that pretty much goes along with the process. You get used to it after a while.
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September 7th, 2007, 08:35 AM
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I hope we get a social worker like that! lol for some reason I had this image of home studies as some stranger coming to live with me! not good lol...it would be kind of weird.
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