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For those of you who have already gone through this, how long did your homestudy take to complete? I've heard usually 2-3 months, but I wasn't sure. Not that I'm going to have one done any time soon. Dh won't even call and get the attorney's number. I've made comments, but nothing. I'm starting to give up on the idea of adopting.
Don't give up!! Have you talked with DH about how you are feeling? About how his apathy makes you feel? Why is it that DH has to make the call? Could you do it? Maybe he just needs that kick in the rear so to speak.
Our homestudy from application to acceptance was only about 2 months. It is a grueling process that needs two willing participants. The homestudy social worker will separate you and your husband and interview you to get any issues out that won't be said in front of each other.
Don't give up on adoption. My dh took a long time to come around but he is so excited now. There are a lot of fears for the average man from "will I love this kid" to "how am I going to afford this." Keep talking about it and you should be okay. G ood luck
I left it up to him because I wanted it to be when he was ready. I'm ready, but I need him to be. We lost our infant son back in September, so we have been waiting until we are healed enough. that's why I can't force the issue.
I think it'll depend a lot on the person who does your home study, and how quickly you are able to get the documentation together, and how your house meets the safety requirements as is. For us, the things that took longest were getting the police checks (a month for one, less then two weeks for the other), the medicals (for us both took a couple weeks), and getting the references (they had to be mailed out, completed, and mailed back, by 6 of our friends and family). We still have some changes to make regarding safety (putting the other baby gates up, locking the medicines in the cabinet I bought for them, putting up the cord keepers for the blinds, etc.). Our first home study visit was just a few days before Xmas, the last was this past Tuesday. Our worker was pushed to do the process quickly for us by childrens services, so I think your mileage may vary. It would help to get some of the documentation together you can.
In our case this included
- copies of contents/owners insurance, copies of auto insurance
- copies of vaccination records for all pets
- copies of drivers licenses and drivers abstracts
- copies of our fire escape plan
- detailed information regarding our income, expenses, assets, and liabilities
You might want to wait on the police checks and medicals to make sure they are up to date when you're ready.
Mama to Monkey born Feb 24th, 2007, and Toddler born Nov 1st, 2005.