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Alright i woke up after having a bad dream last night. I am so freaked out about being a 20/21 year old mom. I dont know how im going to do it. I know everything will work out but im scared that im going to mess this babys life up and he/she isnt going to be happy. (my bf is there for me and i told him this but he told me to relax and everything will be okay, im just scared about being a young mom)
Originally posted by lilangel91284@Mar 27 2005, 07:46 PM Alright i woke up after having a bad dream last night. I am so freaked out about being a 20/21 year old mom. I dont know how im going to do it. I know everything will work out but im scared that im going to mess this babys life up and he/she isnt going to be happy. (my bf is there for me and i told him this but he told me to relax and everything will be okay, im just scared about being a young mom)
I WAS 19 WHEN I GOT PREGNANT I WILL BE 20 WHEN THE BABY IS BORN. AND I FELT THE SAME WAY TIL PROBABLY THE 19TH WEEK.. THAT WAS MY SECOND ULTRASOUND.. AS SOON AS I SAW THE BABY I KNEW EVERYTHING WOULD BE OKAY.. TODAY I AM 26 WEEKS 6DAYS.. AND THE BABY HAS BECOME MY WORLD.. I STILL THINK " HOW AM I GOING TO DO THIS.. WILL I BE ABLE TO DO THIS" I AM SINGLE.. AND STILL TALK TO THE FATHER. HE WILL HELP ME.. BUT ITS STILL REALLY HARD THINKING ABOUT -- BUT ITS NOT GOING TO BE EASY.. BABYS ARE A LOT OF WORK.. BUT THE FEELING WILL GET BETTER AND THE ANXIETY WILL GO AWAY
Aside from their basic needs-- food, shelter, etc, --what a baby needs most of all is love and care. You sound like you've got the love part down pat-- you're already worried. As far as the care part goes, all it takes is the time to educate yourself. So read the books, but don't be afraid to disregard something that doesn't sit right with you, or at least get some second opinions.
Find a pediatrician you LOVE. That's important, because you'll be going to him or her with a lot of questions. You don't want to feel embarassed to say "I know this is a dumb question, but...."
Get a book on childrens's symptoms and how to treat them. So you'll know the difference between one that needs Tylenol and snuggles and one that needs the ER.
Age has nothing to do with it . Once you hit adulthood, it's more a question of personality and a willingness to put someone else's needs before your own.
You'll do fine, honest!!
WIFE TO PETER
MOM TO BRIAN (6-18-98)
I am sure you will be great! Even other Mom's have similar concerns. It can be daunting having your first baby no matter what age you are. My sister had her first child at 19. Shelby is the most wonderful girl! I am sure my sister worried about the same things. (((HUGS)))
*hugs!* I know how you feel!! I sometimes still feel that way and I'm due in less than 5 weeks! I am only 21.
Just remember - you are going to be a GREAT mommy and the best thing you can do is just BE THERE for your little bundle of joy!! You'll do great!!!
Mom to Grace (6), Michael (4), Heath (2), and a little surprise due in the spring...
I know how you feel. I'm only 20 right now, and i'll turn 21 when i'm 8 months pregnant...i worry alot, mainly about going back to school and college and juggling having a baby and raising my child, i know my SO will be there 100%, and that comforts me alot.
Everything will be OK, my mom had me when she was 18 and I turned out just fine!
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oh i had the same problem, the first day deja was home was horrible, everything went wrong, my 1st day and i couldnt handle it how was i gonna handle the rest of her life? But it all comes to you very soon, as long as you are happy and try the best you can, then your baby will be happy. you'll do great!! and we are all here for you!
don't worry!!! i was 23 when i had my child, and so far he's fine! he doesn't know his father, but he's fine with me. i feed him well, laugh with him, and take him around the city. Just be sure he is well cared for and happy, and thats it! i know you feel young (trust me i did) but its good your bf is there for you. also, get a doctor for your baby that you really like. and just remember, that if your bf suddenly breaks up with you, theres many moms on this website that can support you.
I am a mom at 24, AND LOVING IT!!!
Everything will be ok. I was 18 when i got preggo and 19 when i has Rylee. I'm 20 now and she is doing great. I think you will do great. Once you hold your baby for the first time, you will melt and everything will be worth it. My sister is 16 and she is 8 months preggo and she is scared but she knows that everything will be fine.
Thanks everyone. I think right now i need the support from others who have been through this or going through it. I think parents and even my bf sometimes make this harder then what it can be because they dont understand how im feeling even if i try to tell them. SO THANKS AGAIN. Im feeling better about it but still scared. Not knowing what the next year will bring me rather then before when i didnt have to plan for anything i did what i wanted when i wanted.
I went through the same fear w. my first baby. I was 18 when we got pregnant, and we we're very excited, but I was nervous and felt for a while that I wasn't going to be a good mother. I even felt like I wasn't going to know how to take care of her, but it comes very natural. When you see your baby for the first time you will experience this new feeling and meaning of love. You worrying that your not going to be the best mom proves that your a great mom already because your so concerned about your baby. You'll do just fine! We're all hard on ourselves sometimes!