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But upon announcing my pregnancy to a few of our neighbors, I got the "how old are you *gasp*" I said that I was twenty four years old and my neighbor responded "wow that is so young!"
Really? 24 too young?
According to my neighbor, you should be 28 years old before you have kids. I've also heard people say that women should wait till their thirties so that they can have their fun in their twenties. What is everyone's thought on this? Has anyone else ever been told that they are too young to have a baby?
I think there are a ton of advantages to having them young, so don't let people get to you. Everybody has an opinion and for some reason everybody thinks what is right for them is right for everybody, and that's just not the case. I want 6 kids, I know that isn't for everyone, I think when people say they don't want kids or they're done at one "Gosh, that's crazy." But I try not to say it cuz I know that it is just crazy for ME, not for them.
I want to be DONE having kids by my 30's so I can ENJOY my kids!
I'm 24 and have a 5yr old and a 2yr old (yes same dad and we are married ), I hear all the time that I was stupid for having kids at 19. But I didn't want to be in my 40's and have kids in elementary or middle school.
Yea, I have had that before - even at 26 I got 'the look'...
I have ALWAYS wanted my kids young - because it's what my parents did [Mum was 20 with me, 23 with the sister], and I loved having 'young' parents who could keep up with us... I am not a big one for 'living life in the 20s' - for me, 'living life' MEANT/means starting my family and enjoying my children... I don't really care that i could be travelling the world right now without a care in the world, or that I could be working my way up the corporate ladder - I am happiest doing what I'm doing now... being a Mummy to my two kiddos
I am looking forward to being in my 40's and having the rest of my life to look forward to travelling and doing what I want to do... Just like my parents.
LOL they recently went to Rarotonga and after they got back had a dinner date with 4 of their friends - 2 of whom have a 10 and 12 year old - and they were SOOOOOO jealous that my parents were able to go and have a nice little vacation, while they were stuck dealing with freezing winter morning sport and tween attitudes.
I look at my family - Mums side had kids young, Dad's in their 30+'s - while my parents have 4 Grandkids, one aunty on Dad's side has an 11 and 14yo, the other has a 5 and 6 year old.... my maternal Grandmother is sixty-seven and has 5 great grandkids that she is able to enjoy, whereas my paternal Grandmother is eighty-one and has 4 great grandkids that she can't really enjoy being around because they're so 'loud' and 'busy', and she just doesn't have the energy to deal with that any more...
I am more than happy with my decision to have my kiddos young and to wait until I'm older to travel etc...
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I know what is this living life they're doing? To me they're delaying life? Who dies saying "Gosh I wish I had went to more parties?" "Gosh I wish I had been there for more of my kids lives..." that I could see...
I just turned 25. I have a 5year old and 2 year old. DH and I were engaged when we decided to TTC and I'm sure we looked like "stupid young kids" but we are both very loving, responsible people. We wanted a family and didn't want to wait. It's the best thing ever and we wouldn't change it for the world. I tend to look younger than I am, so I'm sure with baby #3 I'll get funny looks again with the "OMG she's pregnant again?! I wonder if they all have the same dad... she must be a floozy to have gotten pregnant as a young teen and now". That's what I imagine goes through people's heads
Everyone has children in their right time. There is no blanket age that is right or wrong!!
i had my kids young 17 and 18 and 24 i was very young and wished i had, had my 1st 24 but i wouldnt change it at all my sons are gonna be in 4th and 3rd grade this year and that feels great to say. i dont care about what people say because only us parents are taking care of our kids!
I don't think 24 is too young. I had both of my girls by 24 and I think I like having them while I am young and then I am still young enough to enjoy myself and my grandkids when my girls are grown up.
I was 19 when I had my son back then somedays I thought I was to young but I wouldnt change it for the world now. Had my second at 24 worked out perfect now I'll be almost 29 when #3 is born and sometimes I feel thats to old lol
I was 17 when I had the girls, and I became apart of my dss' life when I was 20. I am now 22 and incredibly happy with having them young. All of them will be 5 next year. I did miss out on those ''teenage'' Years, but really smoking pot and partying till 3 am doesn't sound appealing in the least. Building a family is rewarding and that's what I call a ''life''.
I had both of my kids by the time I was 24 and now I am on #3 (same daddy) and I get all the time your having #3 and your how old? I'm 29 & what!! Nobody gives birth or raises my kids I do it all by myself. So forget what others say.
I had my first daughter at 21, my second 24. I got those looks too, since I look alot younger than I really am... My husband and I got married when I was 21, and no it wasn't because I was pregnant... I wasn't pregnant at all! She was one of those wonderful honeymoon babies (Surprise!) I have gotten all the looks possible... Including from my own Dad... when I told him I was pregnant he told me that I was ruining my life having children so young (I was already married for crying out loud!) So I told him that this is what we want, maybe a little sooner than planned.... and it was our choice! I had already graduated from High School and College... I am a trained Early Childhood Educator. Life could not be better! Even now at 26 I still get those looks when I walk with my children. Well go ahead and look! I am more than happy with my life and my choices, would not change one single detail!
I had my first son at 20 and am due with my second now at 24. I wish I had waited and was a bit older when I had my first son, but not because I thought I was too young to properly care for him but because I wish I has been in a better financial situation. I could care less what people think, my son rocks and I feel like he has been apart of my life forever!
I enjoy being a young mom! I had my first at 23 and want to be done at 25, lol. I definitely don't think 24 is too young by any means. Some people might not be ready at that age but everyone is different and there is no "set number" which defines a suitable age to start having children
I turned 28 last month and I'm due with #4 in April. I had my first at 23- turned 24 a few days later. I think if you are married and ready to have kids then it doesn't matter how old or young you are. just ignore them!
