[adventuretime]

i am 20 years old and i have a four year old boy and a two year old girl, and our four year old boy has severe emotional issues, on top of oppositional defiance disorder
what i'm wondering is if anyone has any coping ideas for dealing with his outbreaks?
we recently heard that children at daycare are scared of him because he pushes, hits, and bites when another child has a toy he wants.

he also goes through phases where he tells people he doesn't like them, like me or his father or grandparents, hides his dirty underwear in his room, pushes his sister around, resists going to the potty and says he likes going in his underwear, destroys things or will just constantly cry over nothing.
we used to put him in his room when he did these things but he just finds things to play with or destroys his room, so now we put him in a chair in the middle of the kitchen until he can tell us why he is in timeout...but nothing seems to work.

sorry about the long post, but anyone have and input?

[Dhartanya]

Im sorry your having difficulties, have you gone through any programs with your son? Does he have a councillor or therepist that has outlined a behavour plan?

[adventuretime]

well we are going to have him evaluated again and see what they recommend.
it's just so hard dealing with his outbreaks because he is such a smart and adventurous kid but when he gets like this i'm not sure what to do.

[Dhartanya]

Originally Posted by adventuretime

well we are going to have him evaluated again and see what they recommend.
it's just so hard dealing with his outbreaks because he is such a smart and adventurous kid but when he gets like this i'm not sure what to do.

Getting him evaluated will definitley help. Push for lots of ideas, behaviour plans and any programs he might qualify for.

Good luck, while I dont have a child with any emotional disorders (Pregnant with first), I had two brother with moderate to extreme emotional and behaviour disorders growing up.

Seeking out and demanding help with the best advice I can give.

[adventuretime]

okay thank you very much

[sarah*]

Originally Posted by adventuretime

i am 20 years old and i have a four year old boy and a two year old girl, and our four year old boy has severe emotional issues, on top of oppositional defiance disorder
what i'm wondering is if anyone has any coping ideas for dealing with his outbreaks?
we recently heard that children at daycare are scared of him because he pushes, hits, and bites when another child has a toy he wants.

he also goes through phases where he tells people he doesn't like them, like me or his father or grandparents, hides his dirty underwear in his room, pushes his sister around, resists going to the potty and says he likes going in his underwear, destroys things or will just constantly cry over nothing.
we used to put him in his room when he did these things but he just finds things to play with or destroys his room, so now we put him in a chair in the middle of the kitchen until he can tell us why he is in timeout...but nothing seems to work.

sorry about the long post, but anyone have and input?

sounds just like my daughter, she just turned 5 last month, very emotional little girl, cries alot, wets/dirty underwear everyday, hides them in her room, refuses to use the potty even when she is sat right near it, we have tried all different kinds of rewards and punishments where nothing works. She has an appt with a peadatrician (sp?) on 30th july at the hospital and we are going from there, sorry i don't have anymore advice but wanted you to know you are not alone!

[LJD3Tdance]

My 5 year old I've been wondering what is up with...if he's just 5 and a boy, or if he has some sort of disorder, probably more like ADHD...but none of my kids have anything diagnosed...and I already have a hard time coping with them!

[Excited_mommy]

I use to work with a 4 year old boy at my daycare who had very similar behaviors. It was very difficult for me to know what to do because his parents didn't want to address or admit that there was anything wrong. It's great that you are seeking help for your child and I think that shows a lot as a parent. As for the boy in my daycare class, I found that what worked best was to take him into the hall way and ask him to take a walk with me. That way he had no one to show off for or yell at. When we went into the hall it was quiet time and he would calm down and tell me what was wrong. It didn't keep it from happening again but it did help for a while.