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OK all. I need to vent a little. I am going to X post this on a few of my regular boards I post on.
Last night around 7pm, my best friend calls me. She is pregnant with her EIGHTH child but asked me to watch her youngest (10m old daughter) because she wanted to go out. I told her sure but I needed her to come get her sometime between midnight and 1am because I had to be to work this morning and I am NOT a morning person at all if I do not get enough sleep. She tells me "no problem." I go to Burger King and get us dinner and come home. She calls a little while later and tells me she does not need me to babysit because her plans got screwed up by her older kids' father deciding not to take them so my family carries on with our evening. At about 10:30 or so she comes over to my house and drops the baby off and her older 3 kids are knocking on my next-door neighbor's door (I will get to that in a minute) but he does not answer. So I get Jada out of her van and take her into the house. Then her older daughter comes up and says Tara wants to know if I will watch the older ones. I tell her yes but again remind her that I need the kids picked up by 1am. The evening goes on without incident. 1am comes and she is still not here yet but I know things happen and people do end up being late so I don't make a big deal about it. Then Jada starts screaming for 20 minutes straight! So after I get her calmed down and to sleep I call Tara's cell and leave a vmail message. Then I call again but don't leave a message. Then Jada wakes up again screaming and I call again and leave a message while Jada is screaming. I mean, I changed her, fed her, Scott & I were taking turns rocking her and we could not get her calm for nothing. So Tara finally calls me back around 1:45 and tells me she will be here in just a few minutes. HA! It gets to be 2:30am and I call again. This time her no-good low-life boyfriend answers the phone (he is an abusive S.O.B. who almost killed her earlier this year and she STILL took him back). He tells me they are out to breakfast and they just ordered their food and they are not leaving yet so they will be back to get the kids in about 25 minutes (that would have made it about 3am by that time). I said "whatever" and hung up. I told Scott when they come to get the kids he might get nasty with me and Scott basically said he didn't want to do that because he would have to deal with HIM if he talked to his wife that way (GO SCOTT! ). Scott tells me to go to bed and he will deal with everything but I told him no, I was the one who volunteered and it would not be right if I left him stuck dealing with everything. 5 minutes later they pull up. Neither Tara or Rob come up to get the kids, the girl with them does. I told her I was sorry for being a b%$#@ but I had to be to work in the morning.
When they get home Tara calls me and tells me I have some nerve getting mad at her because she DESERVES to go out and get away from the kids. I just hang up on her because by that time I am just fuming soooooooooo bad!
I tell this to my boss today and she asks me what business does Tara have going out while pregnant with her EIGHTH child. Also, Tara does not work, she collects welfare and SSI for one of her sons. If she is in that much need, she really has no business going out.
So when I get home from work, I talk to my next-door neighbor and we both suspect they were knocking on his door so she can stick HIM with the older 3 kids. He told me he would have said no anyways because it seems every time he is watching someone else's kids his boss calls him to come in for OT but he misses out.
I now have to find another alternative to the 22nd of this month for CJ because my SIL is getting married and we are not taking him (he is too high-strung to be around that many people) and I had asked her to watch him. But now with this, I do not want her to, especially since this no-good boyfriend is moving back in and we do not want him around OUR son.
I am so sorry for this long vent. I am sooooooo exhausted but I am not taking a nap because I want to go to bed early tonight instead.
If you stayed with me and read this, than you.
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wow...what a b*#$(.... sorry, but that is so rude. You arwe doing her a favour. If she cant handle the kids she has, why have an eight...espeially with an abusive boy he who almost killed her. Wow, I am sorry. What a brat.
Not my place to tell you what to do, but I've had that same "best" friend. Different name, same bad attitude. My advice, get her out of your life, you'll be much happier.
especially with her letting this a**hole back into her life - you can't be around people like that, cuz you never know what the time bomb of a bf is gonna do - kwim?
sorry you had a rough night hun - hope you get a good nights sleep tonight and be able to put things in better perspective in the morning.
No one is out of line at all. And now I realize I should have posted this in the steam room, sorry about that
Anyhoo, I am seriously thinking of cutting her out of my life....again :: I have always tried to stick by her but there was another time we had a falling out and we did not talk for 5 years. She has seriously changed over the years into someone I do not know or respect anymore. That is why I titled the post the way I did. I have plenty of other friends so I do not need her dragging me down.
Thanks everyone for reading my vent!
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No one is out of line at all. And now I realize I should have posted this in the steam room, sorry about that
Anyhoo, I am seriously thinking of cutting her out of my life....again :: I have always tried to stick by her but there was another time we had a falling out and we did not talk for 5 years. She has seriously changed over the years into someone I do not know or respect anymore. That is why I titled the post the way I did. I have plenty of other friends so I do not need her dragging me down.
Thanks everyone for reading my vent![/b]
If it wasn't for the 8 kids I'd think we had the same "friend". After our falling out we didn't speak for 3 years.
I am feeling really refreshed today, I got plenty of sleep so I am not so tired and cranky anymore.
I still don't think I want her as a friend. She has just used me WAYYYYYYY too much over the years.
ETA: she uses everyone. My next-door neighbor she led on that she wanted a relationship with him, asked him for money and all sorts of other things and then she decided to get together with this creep, all the while telling my neighbor she wasn't seeing this other guy (who BTW has no money, while my neighbor has some money...she even told me to sleep with this neighbor, get pg by him so he can give me all sorts of money, no thank you I am not like that).
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Urgh...that makes me mad. You shouldn't have to deal with that BS. You were doing her a favor by watching her kids...all you asked was for her to pick up the kids between 12-1...and she still doesn't do that....what is wrong with her. SHe is just taking advantage of you...I would definitely cut her off as a friend.
