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April 3rd, 2011, 10:31 AM
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Its always cool to hear how relationships developed. SO I was thinking, why dont we each share how we met, started dating, engaged, married, DH/SO/DF.
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April 3rd, 2011, 12:31 PM
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This is going to make me look terrible.

When I was 17 and my daughter was about 14 months old her dad and I weren't together anymore, but he would take her for weekends. On the weekends I would go out with friends of mine to movies or whatever. One weekend my friend Barbie wanted to go to a party on base so we went and the guy signing us into the base was my future DH. I thought he was an ***, he sped through the base really fast, almost carelessly. I didn't see him again until I was just about to leave the party and he announced that he'd was going to the strip club.

I didn't see him again for about a month, when he and my friend Barbie started dating. She would take me to his apartment because her mom didn't approve of him, so she brought me along to talk to her mom randomly when she called so that she knew she was hanging out with me and not the guy. Barbie and Antony (dh) liked to spend a lot of time in the bedroom. They tried to get me to date his room mate, but I didn't like him at all. Only a couple of weeks after going to his apartment with Barbie he and I had had a budding friendship. He used to drive to my bus stop during his lunch break to pick me up and have lunch together. He absolutely adored my daughter and when she got sick and hospitalized he drove me to the hospital almost everyday so that I could be with her.

Eventually he and my friend broke up and he and I started dating a week and a half later. I found out I was pregnant sometime in early April (dd of Dec 31). We decided to get married. We won a wedding on top of the Stratosphere casino in Vegas, we just had to pay for the tux and gown (rented because I hated the dress but didn't think to find one I liked better).

We never technically got engaged so he never really proposed to me. I do however have a couple of pictures of him from highschool that he wrote on. One of them was jokingly written before we started dating. It said something about "Be ready for our wedding on September 2" The day that I turned 18 and would have been "legal" to marry him (we talked about getting married before we got pregnant). But we got married while I was still 17 (my dad just had to sign the marriage license).

It'll be 8 years June 27 this year that we've been married. We've been together for 8 years (started dating March 29, 2003)
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April 3rd, 2011, 01:19 PM
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My first job was at a movie theater and I worked with DHs sister. He would come in all the time to see free movies, but never on my shifts. All the other girls would say how hot "Heather's brother" was, so I grabbed heather's phone (DHs sister) and randomly called him...I told him that I wanted to meet him becuse all the girls kept saying he was soooo cute. He turned me down! At the time, he was living with another girl. They ended up breaking up a few weeks after that and I called him again. We met in person for the first time on my 18th birthday and have been together ever since!

We got engaged on my 22nd birthday, and our 4 year "dating" anniversary. It was at a restauraunt on a hill that overlooks the city, and one of the walls is made entierly of glass, it's so beautiful! I was expecting it, because we had gone ring shopping, but it was still really cute and I cried! We got married about...a year and a half after that so I could finish my degree.

We'll be having our 3 year anniversary this year, and I'm honestly loving every min. of it. I never understand those jokes where people say your life ends and you stop having sex just because you are married...um, not here! lol. I think it's because we really balance eachother out..i'm loud and crazy and he is quiet and way more chill.
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April 3rd, 2011, 01:56 PM
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I was 19, in college, and taking a summer class. One day, I was doing
research online for a paper, and I had AOL instant messenger open. *Apparently my DH used to troll AIM looking for girls. He found my profile and started bothering me. *I really thought he was very annoying and pushy, but for some reason, I never blocked him.*

He did start to grow on me eventually. He even tried to help me with my research even though he had no idea what he was doing. Finally, I agreed to meet him in person. He lived about 40 minutes away in a bigger city. I drove to his house and felt ok about it because his entire family was there (4th of July weekend). I'm shy anyway, but it was awkward.*

We dated through the summer, and he started using the L word pretty quickly I told him he was being stupid and we barely knew each other.*

Summer ended, and I went back to college 7 hours away. We kept dating long distance. By October he was talking marriage. Again, I thought he was rushing things. I told him I wouldn't even consider it until we had lived in the same zip code for a while.*

He got his butt in gear and applied to my university. He got accepted for the next fall, but that summer I studied abroad, so we were even more long-distance.*

After 14 months of long distance dating, we were in the same zip code. He waited 3 months after that to propose. We got married 9 months after the proposal, before the next school year started, and here we are 7.5 years later.*
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April 3rd, 2011, 02:15 PM
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This is gonna be a long one.
My first job, was as a part time Administrative Assistant at the Rain Gutter company, I started Feb 05 when I was 18. There was several people who quit or got fired and so I went to full time, doing a little bit of everything. By April I was doing the scheduling for installation crews. One day in May a guy came into the office, clean shaven, dressed real nice, tongue hanging out hot. I just got a glimpse of him at first. A few minutes later my back was to the door of my office, a guy called my name, I recognized the voice as one of the installers. I turned around to find that guy I just saw standing in the doorway. It was one of the installers, Tim, I think I just about died of shock. Well pretty much everyday after that he would stop and talk to me whenever he came in, done for the day.
The beginning of June, the owner and the guy who ran the warehouse (the shop), went to pickup a new gutter truck from CO. Leaving me and the owners wife to pull material for job and run the shop for a week. Well so Tim volunteered to help me. That Friday when we were talking he said he was going to the Valley for his brother track meet. He had told me about trouble he used to get into with friends in the valley. So after he left, I called him to tell him to stay out of trouble. Not thinking I used my cell phone because the 2 lines at work were in use.
I used to turn my cell phone off when I got home, I still lived with my parents. So that Sunday I turned my cell phone on for what reason I have no clue. I found 6 messages. All from Tim. By the last message he said "fine dont answer the phone and talk to me". SO I called him back, he asked me out to lunch. So Sunday June 26th, 05, we went out to lunch, saw Crash @ the theater, and sat talking after that for another 2 hours. We went out to dinner or a movie every night that week after work. It got a little tough after that because my parents didnt like the idea of me dating a guy 6 years older. Well they got over it, sorta.
A week after we started dating, I was fired. We found out years later it was because I was dating Tim. Even though the owners pushed for us to.
Oct that year I was gone to TN for a family anniversary party. While I was there we spent 4 hours talking one night, until 3 in the morning. He was asking if I would want to pick out my own engagement ring. Told him, No I dont think thats right. I thought he was kidding.
That Saturday after I got back he had to work so we were going to go to dinner. I was supposed to meet him at work (where I used to work & he still does). I'm waited and waited, finally he showed. We went to dinner the same place we went to lunch on our first date. While we were at dinner, he's telling me that his boss wants him to go take a look at the Spring Hill Suites hotel job they did a year or so ago, it supposedly has a problem with water leaking inside. So after dinner we drive over there. He goes to look at it. He's gone about 5 minutes. Comes back, asks if I'll come look cause he cant see any water damage. So we go up to a room on the 2nd floor. He opens the door the room. By the time I step into the room my mouth dropped open. There are candles lit around the room, rose petals all over the place. I turn to find him on one knee with a box open in his hand. I honestly dont think I said yes for a minute or two since I was in such shock.
It was sad though, I wasnt able to wear my ring for 2 weeks as it had to be sized. I have tiny fingers so it had to go down to a 4 1/2. It took me I think a week maybe 2 to tell my parents. Since they still didnt really like him, since he didnt go to church and was so much older, I was scared to. Tim finally yelled at me one night on the phone, told me he was hanging up and not talking to me again until I told them. So I went upstairs and told them. To this day my dad is still kinda upset that he didnt ask his permission first.
April 8, 2006 we got married. Will be 5 years on Friday. I know, together 4 months got engaged and then married at 9 months together.
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April 3rd, 2011, 02:47 PM
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Love this thread!

Well one night in June a friend of mine came to visit so we went out to celebrate her birthday. Well I kept eyeing this guy (SO) and we would stare at each other everytime I walked by. Then he was at the bar ordering a drink and I walked up and asked him the time, he thought that was my "move" but after he gave me it I just walked away and said thanks! lol So then my super drunk friend was hanging all over him not knowing I thought he was cute, well my dad was coming to pick us up from the bar soon, I went over to her and just said "I'll be outside" she nodded and I walked outside... next thing I know he's standing behind me... He thought I was talking to him. We exchanged numbers and havent left each others side since then. We all laugh and joke about it to this day.
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JJ and i met while I was going to ASU in 2003 in Tempe, AZ. We met online though the old MSN Phoenix city chat where I had met my previous bf while i was at school. the ex-bf and i had broke up probably a week or two earlier over a really bad ordeal. Things were just going down hill between us and while i was at a mutual friend's house the ex called to see if i was there and low and behold when i went to leave that night all 4 tires on my car were slashed. After the fact nearly a year later when ex contacted me again to see if was available (which i wasn't thanks to JJ--haha his loss!) he brought up the slashed tires and said "oh that was my cousin that did that." yeah, okay because your cousin met me all of 2 times and had reason to slash my tires
Anyway the tire slashing deal over spring break was when i quit talking to the ex, cut my losses and get out of that relationship kind of thing. JJ and i had started talking on the MSN city chat, he initiated the contact and asked if i had AIM and if he could add me and i said sure. We talked randomly over the next couple weeks on AIM and I was chatting to him and i could not for the life of me remember his name i knew it started with a J but couldn't remember and so i apologized and asked him, it was Jeremiah but he goes by JJ, and he acted all mad but got over it LOL i felt sooo bad We chatted on AIM just about every night after that. Towards the end of April when classes were winding down I was bored one weekend and said we should go do something, like see a movie. and he was mad because he worked weekend nights we kept chatting until the first part of May when classes ended and I told him I wouldn't be on for a few days due to packing up my computer and driving back home. In chat he says to me "you have to promise me one thing...that you'll text me and let me know you got home okay otherwise i'll be worried." so he sent me his number and 3 days later when I got home i texted him and let him know i was okay and safe. We texted each other for probably 3 weeks before we actually called each other. He was in Idaho visiting his Dad when he called me for the first time. We talked on the phone every night that he was in ID and after he got home found out that he had a $230 phone bill oops!! I had a local AZ number at the time as did he but he was roaming when he called me from ID a didn't realize it. The night that i really knew that I like him and he liked me was when I was cleaning my room in NE and talking to him on the phone, i was teasing (read: flirting ) and he made the comment "shut your mouth!" jokingly and i replied back "and just what are you going to do if i don't?" he answer was "i'll put my mouth..i mean hand over you mouth!" It was an extremely joking conversation until he flubbed his words and i was replying back when he phone cut out and dropped the call he was on his way to work past the valley where he didn't have good reception for calls or texts. I texted him something about actually meaning what he had said and if it meant what i thought it meant. it was huge like 2 or 3 page text and i never heard back from him so i thought i had blown it and was embarassed. the next night he gets ahold of me and told me he had chucked his phone against the ground after it lost the reception and had to go get a new one when i moved back to the Phoenix-area the end of that summer and moved into my apartment he actually met me at the motel room that i was staying in the night before i moved in and we went out to lunch and have been together ever since. July 31st this year will be 8 years that we've been together. So to sum it up we chatted online for nearly 2 months before i gave JJ my phone number, we texted each other for probably 3 weeks before we actually talked on the phone for the first time, and we the last 2 months of the summer on the phone and chatting/texting before we went out on our first date. We really got to know each other in that time frame and probably why everything else went so fast. We had been dating for a few months and my parent's and brother/SIL and just left from a visit to Phoenix and meeting JJ when he called me and let me know that his mom and stepdad had told him that they were getting a divorce. That was mid-november and by the time their house was sold and the divorcce final it was January and his mom had just moved into a rental house and JJ and I had talked it over and he moved in with me and my roommate instead of moving with his mom. Fast forward to 2006, i had left hints continuously for JJ on types and styles of rings I liked and had told him that he had better have at least proposed by our 3 year anniversary (July 31st 2006) because if at 3 years together if he wasn't sure that he wanted to be with me forever or at least have an idea of it we needed to seriously re-evaluate things. I didn't want to be like my brothers and be with their SO for years before actually tying the knot. My oldest brothe had been with my SIL since Jr High and didn't get married until my brother was 22 so 8 years or so and my other brother was nearly the same, they started dating in 1997 and got married in 2004. So the end of january 2006 our apartment complex was redoing our parking lot and we had to park like a 1/4 block away from our apartment. it was taking them FOREVER to get it done. February 6th they had the new asphalt down but not finished and JJ had said he was going to go to the gym with a buddy, which wasn't too out of the ordinary, just the location he said he was going to didn't make sense. I told him to hurry up because i wanted to go to the grocery store and i'd just meet him back at home and he could help me carry stuff. I called him before i left walmart and he said he was home and i told him that i was on my way home and to be outside since i was just a few miles away. I get there and he's not outside. he won't pick up his phone so i'm grumbling in my head about him being a butt (subsititute the actual word that is not JM friendly that i was really thinking) and i get to the door and i'm fumbling to get it open and not drop the milk i was carrying. he opens it and takes the bags from me and i get in the door and the TV is off and the radio blaring and i get in and realize it was our song "I'd do anything" by Simple Plan and i turn around and he's on one knee and asked me to marry him of course I said yes and called my parents and my dad said "well i had a feeling that was going to happen because he called and asked if it was okay." my dad was really impressed that JJ had called and asked him even though he really didn't need to. Then we went to work planning a wedding and were married November 10, 2007.

I'll copy and paste my wedding story from another board so i don't have to retype it later.
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I'll try not to make this too long. lol

Back in October of 1999 I was in a yahoo chat room online and a guy asked a question in regards to an infected piercing. I replied to his question, and from there we started messaging each other. We chatted on MSN for a couple months, emailed each other, and eventually that led to calling each other. When we talked to each other for the first time it felt as though we'd known each other for years already. I loved the sound of his voice and his accent. In February 2000 he was taking a trip down to the states with a bunch of friends to visit another friend that was attending university four hours away from where I lived at the time. He dropped his friends off and came to spend a few days with me. I'll never forget the night sitting there with my roommate waiting anxiously for his phone call to tell me he was here, and then it came, and I went and met up with him at a blockbuster. He knew what I looked like because I had sent him a picture, but I hadn't seen a picture of him. When I walked up to the car and saw him for the first time I instantly fell in love with his eyes. He was handsome, had amazing eyes, a perfect smile, and smelt sooo good. We spent the next three days together and it was amazing. I cried when he left, not knowing when I'd see him next. A couple days later after he returned home we decided that we wanted to commit to a long distance relationship and for the next 4 1/2 years we spent A LOT of money on phone calls, snail mail packages, and visits to one another, never mind countless hours chatting and emailing one another. I applied to have him sponsor me to move to Canada and in July of 2004 we got the letter saying our application was denied. It felt like our world was being shattered. We made the only decision we were left with, and that was that we'd have to get married. We already knew we wanted to, but not under these circumstances. I quickly started making plans for a small ceremony, and was crushed that I wasn't gonna have that perfect proposal story that most girls dream of. I never let on that I was crushed, but deep down I was. In September 2004 he made a trip down with two of his closest friends for a weekend family fun reunion. We were gonna make a quick run to the liquor store, but our friends were gonna just hang at the house while we did that. I was a little confused about that. lol. We were on our way to the liquor store and he asked me if I wanted to stop at the island (in the middle of the town I was living was a lake, and on that lake was a little wood bridge that led to an island that we always visited whenever he came to see me) so I worried about our friends said "sure but we better not take too long". We started walking to the island and half way there I was like "it's kinda warm I don't think you'll need your sweatshirt" but he was like "oh whatever I'll just carry it". So we get to the island, and I sit on a bench looking out at the sun shining down on the water, it was really beautiful, and all of a sudden him standing in front of me, bends down on one knee and pulls out a box. I was shocked, and shaking, and he proceeded to tell me all the lovey dovey mushy stuff and said "even if this wasn't the order of how we would of planned things, I always dreamed of the day I could ask you to marry me, and I'll never let anything take that away from us....he opens the ring box and says..... Klynn will you marry me?". I instantly started crying, and boy did that sunshine make that ring sparkle. It was perfect. We cried, hugged, laughed, kissed and took a few moments with each other before we went to the liquor store and then back to the house where our friends greeted us with glasses of champaign. They knew all along, and I was on top of the world. Later I found out that he had asked my mom and dad for their blessing the last visit down he had made. I loved hearing that! In October 2004 we had a very small marriage ceremony, and I moved to Canada to be with him. After I was granted permanent residence in Canada in December of 2005, we planned a Marriage Blessing for July 2006 and it was everything that we had ever dreamed of....the church, white dress, black tux, wedding party, cake, reception, and all family and friends in attendance. I know it's so cliche but I really can't imagine my life without him. He's an amazing man!!

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Wow there are a lot of stories that involve online and chat rooms. That is so awesome. It has been so great to read the different stories.
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Wow there are a lot of stories that involve online and chat rooms. That is so awesome. It has been so great to read the different stories.
It has been great to read everyones different stories!!

I will say that I wasn't in a chat room looking for romance, and neither was he. I guess the saying when you least expect it, it will happen is true.

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We talked on the phone every night that he was in ID and after he got home found out that he had a $230 phone bill oops!! I had a local AZ number at the time as did he but he was roaming when he called me from ID a didn't realize it.
This makes me laugh because we spent THOUSANDS of dollars on phone bills. Makes me sick just thinking about it. Pretty sure we should own part of the phone company. haha. Sure wish they had the unlimited long distance/international calling plan then that we have now, that or Skype sure would have come in real handy back then. lol. Ahh the things you do for love.

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I guess the saying when you least expect it, it will happen is true.
Thats for sure. I never was looking for a boyfriend, for surely not a husband when I went to work at 18. But fate has its way, when its the one it doesnt matter when it is.
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tell me about it! after a breakup and slashed tires i wasn't really looking for anyone especially being just over a month before i left for the summer so it really caught me off guard that he was worried about me getting home safe.
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Well here's another online relationship story for you.

One day back in 2006, it was my day off work and I was between relationships and was bored, so I thought I'd find someone on yahoo messenger to chat with. I found my now DH's profile and he looked cute, so I sent him a message. I didn't get a response, so I kept browsing. Finally, an hour or so later, he responded and I instantly realized what a great guy he was. We talked most of the rest of the day and by that night I had this crazy feeling that I would someday marry him, crazy I know, but I just had this gut feeling. So we kept talking online for the next month and we had webcams, so I could make sure it was really him lol! Then we finally decided to meet up one weekend. He lived 2 hours away, so I drove to his apartment on campus. The weekend was perfect, he was so nice and we were just a great pair. So we ended up doing long distance for about 9 months, until I finally moved to where he got a job.

After being together for about 3 years we started looking at rings. I was thinking he would propose soon after, but he waited about anothe 10 months. I was getting very anxious! So the weekend before Christmas 2009, we took a weekend trip to Chicago. I was hopefully it would happen this weekend. That night we went to dinner at The Cheesecake Factory at the bottom of the John Hancock building and we had a seat right up front and could see this huge gorgeous Christmas tree right outside. So after dinner we went over to see it up close, and that's where he pulled out the ring and asked me to marry him. Of course I said yes!

We already knew we didn't want the traditional church wedding and decided on a destination wedding in California. So we started planning it for the following July. It was kind of crazy getting everything planned long distance in just 6.5 months, but it all came together and was perfect!
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so this is my wedding story that i had posted about a week and a half after our wedding. As a precursor to this Hubby was let go from his job a WEEK before our wedding. He was working as a driver for a home medical supply company and the reason his boss gave him was that he wore his sunglasses too much and looked unprofessional. This is in Phoenix, AZ aka The Valley of the Sun. as a driver...in the sun We think he was let go because 1 he was going to be off a week after our wedding with pay (vacation time) and they were going to be short a driver for that week-they were a pretty busy company at the time, and JJ had asked about getting a raise he was promised at 6 months which was 2 months prior at the point he got let go. cheaper to let him go, bring someone in who isn't asking for a raise, and get him in early enough that they wouldn't be short a driver for long. nice, huh?

anyway here's my story from 11/22/2007:
I held it together with 7 people and 2 dogs in a 1 bedroom apt pretty well until friday night, 11/9, when the people staying plus my parents and brothers were there. My SIL, MOH and myself got back from having our nails done and barely inside the door 4 people ask me "so what are we doing now" i freaked out and said that everyone needs to quit asking me questions and make a decision for themselves, i had enough **** to worry about. at that point i made it to the bedroom and JJ tells me that Heath, he was supposed to do our photography and called him and said that he called and told JJ that he was called into work for Saturday morning, our wedding, and wouldn't be able to do our photography. I started bawling just from frustration and stress and lack of sleep and everything else and everything seeming to **** on us.

My dad told everyone they need to leave and they took my nieces with them who was staying there. That left me, JJ, my MOH Ashlie, her BF Jimmy and their daughter Alyvia. JJ's best man, chris called and they decided that they were gonna go out to the bar, i begged JJ not to do anything stupid and took him over there because he was gonna stay the night there anyway along with a box of stuff that needed to stay there for the dinner reception.

We dropped him off and went to Waffle House to eat because we were all hungry and hadn't had anything all day, this was about 10 at night. Ashlie and I had to go to Walmart for black dress socks for JJ and something else to we took Jimmy and Alyvia to the apt and dropped them off and we headed to walmart.

While we were there I called to check my bank account and found out that I had $800 in my account instead of the $385 that I was expecting. So at 11 the night before my wedding i was doing a happy dance in the middle of the floor in the clothing department in Walmart. Ashlie and I decided that since we were there and had money we were gonna buy the stuff needed for the dinner reception. I also decided that I was gonna buy some wedding night lingere (yeah, I'm cheap but it was better than nothing...and he liked it so that's all that mattered). We checked out from walmart and went to a liqour store because i had to get some Jack Daniels for the groomsman's gifts. Ash and I each got a tall bottle of Mike's hard lemonade figuring that we both needed it.

We got home a little after midnight. We started rounding things up and putting them in boxes, the stuff that had to go with us to the wedding house such as the cake knife, the marriage license, the rings....which we couldn't find! I had showed Ashlie and Jimmy our ring sets that morning and had set them on our entertainment center. While we were out getting our nails done they packed everything in the trailer that we had in boxes and the entertainment center. We were debating on calling my family to see what they did with them and I was worried that they had thrown them in the box that went to Sarena's house, you know, wedding rings go with the box of wedding stuff only it was the wrong box of wedding stuff to put it in.

We stopped looking figuring that they would show up and got out the iron to steam all the bridemaid dresses and finished that a little after 1 AM. Then we decided to work on my dress to make sure we could get it corsetted up because my tailor never actually "sewed" it all the way up.

During this time that i'm standing in my dress i'm texting JJ to make sure that he's not too drunk because he doesn't know when to stop, especially when he's with Chris and if he knew where they put our rings at and if he was at Sarena's house and could check if they were there. We finished my dress and had to modify how to sew it up and pin it because it was a little on the small side because I didn't lose all the weight that I wanted to but we got it to work.

JJ texts me that "Chris got arrested." I'm thinking "oh ****"because its 230am about then. I sent him one back asking if it was a fight or DUI. he replies back DUI. At this point I was soo tired and exhausted and to the point that whatever was going wrong I really didn't give a **** about I was laughing. not a funny situation but I was laughing. So i called JJ and asked if he was arrested as well, he said no that he was a passenger in Chris's truck so they arrested Chris and impounded the truck and that he was waiting. I was like waiting for what. He was still half drunk and out of it. I finally asked him if he was going to need us to pick him up. He said yes so Ashlie and I jump in the truck at 3 in the morning to drive fromt he west side of Phoenix to the Southwest corner of Tempe to pick him up, we got there at 10 til 4am. On the way over Ashlie and I decided that JJ was sleeping on the floor, he wasn't supposed to be there and that was his punishment. We got him and he wanted to go to the police station to see if they had proccessed Chris yet which they hadn't.

We finally got home a little before 430AM. JJ tried going to sleep on the bed and we yelled at him until he moved to the floor and slept at the foot of the bed. I set the alarm for 630 or so I thought so Ashlie and i could go to Sam's when they opened for the Gold Key member hours. A little before 5 my cell phone goes off and its Sarena, JJ's old boss wanting to know if I knew that Chris had been arrested and if I knew where JJ was. I said yeah I knew and JJ was sleeping on the floor and asked if she could check the box of stuff we brough over and make sure the rings weren't in there, she said they weren't. I get off the phone and go back to sleep and my cell phone alarm starts going off at 640, my alarm clock never went off.

Ashlie and I got dressed and went to sam's to finish buying food and supplies and get back to the house, my neice's and Jimmy had showered, Ashlie, JJ and I still needed to shower and get ready, it was 825 by this time on our wedding day. I finally was out of the shower by about 9, JJ was gone by about 930, he had to go back to the tux store by 10 because his jacket didn't fit. My oldest niece, who by the way was given our rings by my brother the night before when they packed, gave them to Ashlie so we could finish those boxes, and Ashlie helped dry my hair and pin and curl it while the youngest one helped my mom get dressed and ready, my family had shown up by this time so I sent my dad and brothers to go get beer and table cloths because we weren't able to get it at sam's club because ashlie had left her licence at the apartment.

We finally had my hair and make up done by about 1015 so we hurried to get stuff packed so we could make it to the wedding house. I called JJ to make sure he was already there, which he was, and not like it mattered because the whole "don't see the bride before the ceremony" was already out the window anyway, we made it from my house to the wedding house in about 25 minutes, going 80MPH the whole way because it was on the other side of town (it's actually a 40 minute drive from our apartment). When we left my apartment, I had forgot the K Charm, so I called my SIL to see if they were still at the apartment and if she could bring it with. They hadn't left yet and it was already 1130 with the wedding starting at noon.

My nieces got each other dress and Ashlie helped me get dressed. The minister came in between all this and had us sign the marriage certificate before the ceremony which I thought was weird but it wasn't like we were gonna leave. We were dressed and ready by about 5 til noon and JJ's mom stopped in to see us and congratulate me. Ashlie and my SIL Angie helped take pictures of us getting ready since I no longer had a photographer.

My parents finally got there at about 1220 and by 1230 we were starting to walk out. Since the Best Man was in jail JJ's little brother was designated as the Best Man. Ashlie walked by herself and then the rest of the couples went. Standing in line waiting to go I was just focusing on breathing, I was over the point of crying seeing as I only had about an hour and a half of sleep and was running on adrenaline.

My dad and I walked in and the way that we came in I couldn't see JJ's face. My dress kept catching the edges of all the chairs as I passed. We got to the gazebo and my dad "gave" me away. The minister kept switching back and forth between the ceremony he performs and the one JJ and I had written out so it sounded choppy and unrehearsed which it was because the wedding house minister's don't meet with you until the day of the ceremony so that kind of bugged me but the end result was the same...we were married.!

The ministed told JJ to kiss his bride and after we pulled apart JJ whispered "rejected!" to me, it's his standing joke when I ask for a kiss he'll come to about a finger width away and whisper 'rejected' and kiss me anyway. He joked with me that he was gonna do that before he actually kissed me and I told him I'd kick him in the balls in my wedding dress right then and there lol!.

We marched out and did a short receving line, about 70 of our hundred people actually showed up which was irratating that we paid for all the extra seats. We went back in and cut the cake and fed each other nicely. We sat down and mingled for a little while before people started leaving. It was about 85-88 degrees by the time we were supposed to leave at 2, the groomsmen and JJ all changed out of their tuxes which got to me because I have no pics of JJ and me after cutting the cake in my dress and his tux. We got to Sarena's house and started setting up for the dinner reception, I decided that it was too hot in my dress and changed into jeans and a button up shirt, and again about 25 people showed up for the dinner when 80 said they were coming (we still have excess food more than 2wks later and i'm mad that i spent money on food for 80 when only the few showed up..most of the ones that didn't come were from his family that we had to invite at the last minute...)

We picked up and left about 630 or so, i had told everyone that we were gonna take stuff back to our apartment and then JJ and I were gonna go find a hotel room so we could have some peace and quiet, Ashlie and Jimmy were already on their way to go stay with his Aunt north of Phoenix for the rest of the weekend. Oh and to top it off before we left Sarena's house, Chris's dad, the best man who was sitting in jail, called and wanted to talk to JJ and basically blamed JJ for Chris getting a DUI. I said nope, no way, no how, don't you feel guilty for it one bit. JJ had told Ashlie and I when we picked him up that he had told Chris that there was no way he was driving and that he would split a cab with him, Chris was dumb and tried to be macho and said he would drive and look where it got him.

We stopped with my parents at a gas station on the way back to our apartment and while JJ was pumping gas got hit up by 3 homeless people for money, probably thinking that he was in a good mood because he truck was dectorated with "just married" window paint and streamers (oh and my brother's thought it would be cute to shrink wrap jj's truck at our dinner reception...gotta love my brothers lol). We finally got to our apartment by about 730 and my dad on the way over had told my neices to gather their stuff for the night so JJ and I could be alone so we didn't have to spend our money on a hotel room, which I appreciated more than JJ will ever know after having a house full of people for the previous 4days.

Our house was empty by about 830 so JJ and I went through our wedding presents and cards. When we were done about 930 JJ went to the bathroom and I changed into my Wedding night lingere. He enjoyed it and we proceeded to consumate our wedding LOL. We held each other and tears were just leaking out of my eyes and I couldn't stop. I wasn't fully crying, just tearing up. I think it was just because I was tired and relieved that the wedding part was over and still stressing with the move and everything else. By the time we got to bed it was about 1030.

We got up about 815 the next morning and got showered and dressed to go to the NASCAR race, we met his mom and gave her my dads tux about 930 so she could take them all back at once. We got home from the races about 8pm on sunday and was up until 11 packing and loading the trailer with my brother.

Monday morning we were up at about 7am and still packing and loading, We also had to go get a tow-dolley from Uhaul to pull my car back to nebraska because apparently one of the cylinder's in the motor went out and rather than have it blow up on my brother while he was driving it in californinia, it would be cheaper and easier to fix once they got it home. We made it to San Diego that night and spent Teusday at the San Diego Zoo and Wednesday at Sea World while my mom was having her diaylisis treatment.

We left for Anahiem that night and spent Thursday at Disneyland. The whole trip we had contraband dogs because none of the super 8 hotels we stayed in allowed pets so we snuck the two of them back and forth under coats and blankets and in tote bags...good thing they are small dogs and don't bark lol. It was kinda cool, Sea World and Disneyland have kennels that you can board your dogs in for the day so we did that so we didn't have to worry about the housecleaning ladies walking in on them.

Disneyland's kennels are actually pretty cool, they will provide food and water for them and give you a little certificate when you check them out stating that they were wonderful guests.
We spent all day Friday driving to San Francisco and drove across the Golden Gate bridge at midnight in the fog so there really wasn't much to see.

We finally looped back down to where the I-80 meets up with the west coast and found a super 8 in Hayward that was beyond crappy...the outside had been remodeled but the inside was nasty. The carpets hadn't been vacuumed and the shower were scummy...so much to remember CA for lol. We were on the road Saturday morning by about 10am and heading east. We stopped at a rest area and slept about midnight for a few hours and got back up and started driving again. We finally made it to Nebraska about 930 sunday night and got the trailer unpacked and was in bed by about midnight.
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Aww I love this thread!

Here's another online story. On New Year's Eve going into the year 2003 my bff called me to ask if she could give this guy she met at a party my number, she said to "just be friends" because he was new to my city and didn't know anyone. I was dating someone at the time, so I told her I didn't think that would be a good idea. She kept pushing, so I allowed her to give him my AIM screen name. Then I forgot all about the conversation.

About two weeks later, I returned to college from Christmas break to find out that my then bf had cheated, boo. We hadn't really been dating that long, but it still hurt. That night I drank A LOT! I was chatting with some other people on AIM and was about to pass out for the night when my now DH IMed me for the first time. We talked for a while but I didn't really take anything seriously at first. I think I told him I had three eyes and looked like an ogre, something to that effect. Apparently that did it for him b/c the next day he contacted me again and we talked about deeper things, exchanged real pictures and this continued for about a month. He kept asking me to meet but I was completely freaked out about it and I really wasn't taking any of it seriously, b/c I didn't ever imagine that I would meet someone I talked to online. The week before Valentine's day my bff came in town and engineered a meeting. So we finally met and it was pretty awesome almost immediately. We went on our first date on Valentine's day and have really hung out almost every day since.

About four years later we got engaged...That's a story in itself. We were on a fishing trip with my parents and they dropped us off on this untraveled little island. I'm sitting there as DH is pulling out wine glasses (I kind of had a suspicion and then BOOM thunder, rain, lightning, wind. It was hilarious. So it's pouring down rain, the drops are so big that wine is splashing out of our glasses as we're trying to drink, we can see the wind rocking the little boat that my parents are in out in the water, and DH proposes. It was perfect It's one of those memories that you can really use in your marriage as a metaphor...kind like if we've already weathered one thunderstorm we can make it through another...

We had a Catholic/Jewish wedding or as we like to call it a Jewlic wedding and have been married 4 years on April 21.
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