How can someone...

taatie10 · #1 July 12th, 2011, 07:17 AM

Not be upset or seem to care if they have a miscarriage.
The friend of mine that just got married in May and was pregnant already. She didnt seem real happy she was pregnant instead called her husband a dumb *** for getting her pregnant already. SO on Wed she comes in the office for US. Afterward she tells me she started having cramping and bleeding. She was perfectly fine, was smiling and happy just like any other day. What she said "Oh gosh I hope I dont need a D&C". Really that is your biggest worry?
How is that possible? Even if you were planning on getting pregnant how can you not be upset by having a miscarriage?
Just ranting again!

blessdmommy · #2 July 12th, 2011, 08:09 AM

It could be a coping mechanism. People grieve differently and she may cry and be down in private.

AshleyNR · #3 July 12th, 2011, 08:13 AM

She could also be relieved. If she was not ready for a baby in the first place, it may be both sad news and relief.

blessdmommy · #4 July 12th, 2011, 08:19 AM

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Originally Posted by AshleyNR

She could also be relieved. If she was not ready for a baby in the first place, it may be both sad news and relief.

I think Ashley hit it on the head.

MoMMy2*VickyandHayden* · #5 July 12th, 2011, 10:58 AM

I agree with both ladies! But it sounds more like relief! It's sad but if ur not ready for a kid and u don't make urself ready then it's the kid that will suffer in the end! Because they are a lot of work anf take a toll on ur relationship! They deserve nothing but lots of love and the feeling of being wanted!

#6 July 12th, 2011, 11:38 AM

Oh, that is sad! Did she opt for an abortion? I don't know a lot about abortions, do they have one that you can get a shot for, or take a pill and loose the baby?

I remember you posting about her, I'm sorry I know this is hard for you.

sweet.hun · #7 July 12th, 2011, 01:31 PM

Yep, Ashley nailed it I think. She is probably sad but extremely relieved that she doesn't have to worry about a pregnancy right now.

Even with this miscarriage, to other people I was trying to smile and still be happy even though I was so depressed. I didn't want to break down in front of other people and seem like a basket case.

taatie10 · #8 July 12th, 2011, 06:05 PM

I'm thinking she is probably relieved since she didnt seem thrilled at being pregnant to begin with.
I must be completely different, but even not planned I was devastated. I tried to put on a strong, okay face but it must have been written all over my face and in my eyes for a while afterwards because everyone knew. Thankfully that kept them from bringing it up because no matter how hard I tired I teared up whenever I talked about it for probably 6-9 mos after.