[Megan30]

I'm having a hard time with this one. I have two boys and deep down I know I would love to have a daughter too but I feel like if I sway then I'm not only setting myself up for a disappointment but somehow I'm saying my boys aren't what I want.....I LOVE my boys and I would adore another but there's that little part of me who would love a little girl. This is definitely our last so if it isn't a girl well...no daughters for me. Am I cheating on my boys if I try to sway for a girl?

[cocosmumNco]

no hun i think you have to try it or you will always wonder what if. alot of women have gender dissappointment at first but as soon as they see the baby it disappears.

will you do diet and timing hun or just one.

i'm swaying for a girl i want to lose some weight first then in march i will start a loose low everything girl diet and we will be doing timing to but if it doesn't happen in 6 months i'm gonna cut the timing out.

[Megan30]

I think I'll do the timing...haven't really looked into the diet. I know that once I'm holding that newborn in my arms, any disappointment will melt away.

[SammyJ]

I don't think swaying means that at all! I definitely think it is just more like you saying, you know it would be fun to give my boys a little sister to hang out with and enjoy as a sibling!

And there is no 100 percent way to sway, so I think ultimately you would just be giving yourself that extra advantage to get a girl, and if it doesn't work out that way, then you were meant to have another little boy.

I would do the same thing in your boat, as I think it would be fun to experience having both genders. I just think you can set it up to sway, but realistically know that there is no definite way to choose the gender so that way you don't experience too much gender disappointment.

Good luck!

[mamalamb]

Could have written this myself! We have two girls and would love to experience having a son. Planning to sway boy in a few months but I have guilt about it too. I go back and forth. I'm thinking maybe we will do a partial, like maybe timing only or something.

[mom2pne]

I do not think so! As a mom of 5 boys I have wanted a daughter since I had my first. I say sway that it doesn't hurt and it doesn't mean you love your boys any less! GL!

[Irish_Wristwatch]

I feel the same way, I also have 2 boys and #3 is likely our last, I love my boys but I would love to have a daughter too. If we have another boy i know i will love him just as much as i do the 2 i have already. We will probably do the timing but im not sure about the diet, I havent really looked into that yet

[Tennyson]

Agree with the above ladies. You love your boys, but you also want to share girl things with a daughter. Just like you love your husband but some times you just need a girls night out (or in)! ( Speaking of which, I think I need one of these now!)

How do you sway for a girl with diet? I have only heard about timing! I would like a little girl sometime, but my husband thinks I will have 3 boys (we have 1 now!)

[cocosmumNco]

i like this diet there are others but this seems easiest to me.
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i think just pick out what you can do.

[Megan30]

Thanks Ladies!

[plan4fate]

i agree with everyone, it's def not cheating them! in fact, I think that a sister would be awesome for them! Someone for them to love and protect

I plan on doing some of the sway for a girl things. dh really only wants one more child... and since he has a boy, I'd like a girl.

[Trish36]

I don't think it's cheating at all. I have 3 girls and 1 boy and I am planning on swaying blue. Doesn't mean I don't love my girls or that I will be thrilled if we have another girl, but I would really love to have another boy to add to our family. Even though I'm kind of scared because DS was so much harder to raise than the girls.

[fromGirltoMommy]

I agree 100% with all that Sam said!

[Memi]

Sam said it perfectly. I have been going back and forth on swaying too bc I'd really love a girl next just to insure I get to experience one of each. But then I wonder if it'll make me more dissapointed if I don't get my girl the next try, or that I'm dabbeling in "playing God" when trying to pick (although I know you can't). Ultimately I think I'd have the "what ifs" if I don't just try though. So I plan to sway pink probably just with timing for at least 3 months. Then if I still don't get a BFP I may just throw the swaying out the door.

[PurpleStar]

I totally hear ya, Megan...and also agree with Sam!

Swaying has run through my mind...we have decided #2 would be our last, so my desire for a girl has totally ramped up. But what keeps me from jumping in is that I don't want to add any more "stuff" or stress to the whole process of "trying"...I really want to approach the whole things in as laid back a manner as possible.

I, too, think the most I'll get into it is timing...maybe try the teas, but that's about it.

[mamalamb]

Originally Posted by Memi

Sam said it perfectly. I have been going back and forth on swaying too bc I'd really love a girl next just to insure I get to experience one of each. But then I wonder if it'll make me more dissapointed if I don't get my girl the next try, or that I'm dabbeling in "playing God" when trying to pick (although I know you can't). Ultimately I think I'd have the "what ifs" if I don't just try though. So I plan to sway pink probably just with timing for at least 3 months. Then if I still don't get a BFP I may just throw the swaying out the door.

This too. I have guilt over "playing God", like I know you can't, and we will have what we are meant to have, but then I still do want to sway, so we'll see!