I've made up my mind

Trish36 · #1 January 31st, 2012, 06:28 AM

I've sort of decided that I'm done having children. I've had time to think about things this past weekend and put things in perspective and realized that I'm done with sleepless nights, and weight gain, and having to cater to every little whim of these little critters.

And really, I have 4 wonderful kids, why do I feel the need to have another one??? I think I was afraid to say that my childbearing years are over. But I think I want to start taking care of me now. My kids are 12, 8, 4 and 18 months. I so wanted another boy, but realistically we would probably end up with another girl. I'm almost 40, my body aches, I am tired of carrying my 18months old around now, how will I feel in a couple of years? Pregnancy is hard on me, as much as I wanted to experience it again. Then of course is the matter of $$$$. We are in so much debt right now and are really struggling to get out. I don't want to burden us anymore than that. And it's not like my DS who is 8 now would even play with his baby brother....the gap is too big.
What if the baby is sick or I get sick (since I am older and there are more risks)?
I want to travel and have fun and be able to do and buy things for me and the kids. I want to be able to put them in sports activities.

Who knows, I may change my mind in a couple of years, but for now I will not be waiting to TTC. I will pop in here once in a while to check in on you ladies, if that's okay. And who knows...I may be back.
Wish you all good luck in your ttc journeys!!!

Irish_Wristwatch · #2 January 31st, 2012, 08:09 AM

((hugs)) I know it will be hard for me to ever say im done having kids too, even though we plan on 4, and i know i dont really want more than that

dont be a stranger!

Babybear4 · #3 January 31st, 2012, 09:12 AM

Ditto Bree. I know that it will be a very, very hard thing for me to say goodbye to the childbearing years of my life. [[[[hugs]]]]

plan4fate · #4 January 31st, 2012, 09:35 AM

*hugs* that must have been a tough decision to make!

Aillidh · #5 January 31st, 2012, 01:21 PM

Wow, that must have been a hard decision to come to.

cocosmumNco · #6 January 31st, 2012, 11:01 PM

((( ))) i know this must of been a hard choice for you hun. i hope you can relax now hun.
re your 18 month and 8 year old. my to have the simlar gap but they are 3 and 10 now and play together great and love each other soo much. when your youngest gets alittle older they will play together.
tc hun please keep in touch

mom2pne · #7 February 1st, 2012, 07:57 AM

GL to you! I hope you are able to travel and get out of debt!

My dh and I were in debt up until Spring 2007 when we finally paid off the last of our credit card dept. We originally had about $30,000 in credit cards and we tore the cards up put money a side each week and then made large payments each month. We also used our tax returns to help pay them off quicker. We even tool out 2008 tax return and paid off the car we had and bought a new one so we no longer have those bills either. Just the house payment, utilities and insurances.

Memi · #8 February 1st, 2012, 10:17 AM

I'm glad you were able to come to a decision that was best for you and your family, although I'm sure it's not an easy one. Take care, hun!!

PurpleStar · #9 February 1st, 2012, 04:35 PM

Wow, that must have been a difficult decision to make, but like Megan said, I'm glad you were able to come to terms with things that were not only good for you family, but more importantly, what is best for YOU too. Too often we get lost in the big picture. And like you said, its not written stone, what is good now may change later down the road.

Good luck to you hon! You know you're always welcome here WTTC or not ;-)