AF sucksUpdate

taatie10 · #1 January 31st, 2012, 05:44 PM

Its bad enough when you get one once a month. Its 500 times worse when you get one just a little over a week after your last one.

I'm sick of it. I'm about ready to see if DH would possibly just agree to going off BC so my cycles could possibly figure what the heck they want to do naturally.

bellabri287 · #2 January 31st, 2012, 05:56 PM

have you throught about NFP/FAM and charting? best decision i ever made! BCP suck, condoms suck... and while FAM takes time to learn and follow it's so much better.

i'm sorry

taatie10 · #3 January 31st, 2012, 09:03 PM

I never have because DH is one who thinks no BC means TTC. I did have probs on the Nuva Ring until about 6 mos ago after 3 years. And honestly I wouldnt be very faithful at it because I'm dying to get an oops.

But I'm so sick of this crap.

cocosmumNco · #4 January 31st, 2012, 10:49 PM

oh hun. try it hun talk to him suggest something with no hormones. suggest condoms he will soon agree to fam.
lay it on thick hun let him see how its getting you down. good luck hun

plan4fate · #5 February 1st, 2012, 05:40 AM

Hugs Katie

PurpleStar · #6 February 1st, 2012, 04:40 PM

Hugs, girl...

AF does suck, and while I was on BCP for some time...I got off of it cause it eventually started F'ing with me. So glad, once off of it.

Do what's best for you...its your body...DH shouldn't put birth control solely on your list of responsibilities...its his job too

taatie10 · #7 February 1st, 2012, 06:35 PM

I dont know what to do. I just know DH is stuck in I guess you call old fashion ideas of BC falls onto me.
Then again he's also one who doesnt want to know about female probs I have like with AF or something GYN related.

I figure I'll give another month, hopefully then AF will be back on track or my job & DH"S will be settled and I can just quit BC all together and TTC. But the latter I'm not holding my breath for.

plan4fate · #8 February 1st, 2012, 06:58 PM

Well, you can tell him that FAM and NFP ARE Birth control, they just take some patience and dedication to work. But he does need to be on board for it, if not it's just too tricky to get an oops.. trust me. LOL

taatie10 · #9 February 5th, 2012, 09:34 AM

Because AF has gone goofy these past 2 months. I talked to my OB and she took me off my BC pill until AF comes again. She is thinking the hormones were causing me probs. So we are doing a test month to confirm that. So we are going to see what happens this month and then I will either go back on to a different pill or possibly something else depending on what happens. She gave an estimate of when she thinks I would ovulate so I'm going to be real careful around there.
I tried to tell DH but he kept saying no I dont want to know since it was related to female probs and AF.
I say then its his fault for not listening.
But I am going to be careful. Can some one give me a crash course in temping?

plan4fate · #10 February 5th, 2012, 10:13 AM

Yup. choose a time that you can temp every morning where you've been in bed for 3 hours. Asleep is best, but not critical, just in bed covered up for 3 hrs.

Temp at the same time, and chart it. I recommend tcoyf rather than ff as ff's job is to get you pregnant.

Also watch your CM. there are a few major types. Dry, sticky, creamy, wet. There are also matching sensations which is were you just do a few kegels, walk a few steps and interpert how it feels down there. dry, sticky, wet, slippery.

Niamh Dhabolt's FAM Charts - How Does FAM Work?

Niamh's live journal has a crash course, she also has the CM listings. CM trumps temp every time unless you're taking meds that can affect it.

And I find your husbands attitude about "female problems" to be grossly outdated. If mine pulled that I'd probably break his nose. Old fashioned thinking doesn't sit well with me, I find it almost sexist.

cocosmumNco · #11 February 5th, 2012, 02:21 PM

if hes not listening its his fault hun. i think my dh would be like that to and i would of replied well i'm not listening when you ask is it safe to pull out.
hun do you think you have the strengh to be safe. i know i would be terriable without bc.

taatie10 · #12 February 5th, 2012, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by coco and icklepiggle-mummy

if hes not listening its his fault hun. i think my dh would be like that to and i would of replied well i'm not listening when you ask is it safe to pull out.
hun do you think you have the strengh to be safe. i know i would be terriable without bc.

Being perfectly honest I truly dont know. I've never had to try. I am afraid that since half the time DTD is spontaneous I dont know if it will cross my mind to be safe or if I'll even care.
At this point I dont know what else to do, I'm praying and going off the mind set of whatever happens is meant to.