do you ever doubt you want to ttc?

cocosmumNco · #1 February 6th, 2012, 03:30 PM

do you ever think do i want a baby? do i want to get pregnant? is there anything that puts you off ttc?

i'm in a kind of do i want this mood at mo. i worry about feeling ill when pg, then something going wrong i also worry about the birth. i so wish i could just have a accidently pg. i think waiting makes you worry more.

plan4fate · #2 February 6th, 2012, 04:22 PM

Nope. Not yet. Ask me again after I've pushed one out with no drugs...

over.the.moon · #3 February 6th, 2012, 05:34 PM

Yup, all the time. Pregnancy weirds me out (there is a human inside you, a human), babies terrify me (I have zilch experience with them), and I'm not gonna even start thinking about how its gonna come out. Plus, it might sound totally shallow, I'm really not looking forward to the weight gain and body changes either.

I just try to remember DP promises my own baby probably won't scare me. But she agrees, pregnancy is weird.

Memi · #4 February 6th, 2012, 06:25 PM

I don't doubt that I want to TTC eventually...but TBH the closer it gets to our TTC date the more I doubt if I'm truly ready to TTC again "now"! I think the main thing is DS being so young, I worry that I'll have my kids too close together and won't be able to handle it. Like I'll be in over my head and wish I waited longer. I never wanted "two babies at once" so...IDK on the hard days with DS I get really apprehensive and wonder what I'm thinking.
The tough thing for me is I have no idea what DS will be like in 10 months down the road when a baby would actually be here, so it's hard to judge if I could handle it or what the correct spacing is. I've always said 3 years...so if anything we'll just have to push back a few more months.

booboobunny · #5 February 6th, 2012, 06:40 PM

do you ever think do i want a baby? Yes. Mainly because sometimes my current children are a handful. And my 5 year has health issues that can be really difficult at times. I think dh & i also fear that our other children might develop the health issues as well.

do i want to get pregnant? I love being pregnant but it is risky. I had gestational diabetes with my DD. And ever since i had DD i've never got back to my pre-pregnancy weight.

is there anything that puts you off ttc? Maybe if it takes a real long time to happen i might be a lil upset. Dh & i never TTC because both pregnancy were np/nt. So this will be a new experience for us & we are both excited to actually plan for it !!

HappyHippy · #6 February 6th, 2012, 07:03 PM

Nope. I love being pregnant, I love giving birth, I love having that new baby, I love watching my kids grow. That's not to say that they dont' annoy me sometimes

But I love it more times than not.

Irish_Wristwatch · #7 February 7th, 2012, 04:29 AM

No, not really. I love being pregnant and I know i want my kids close in age. Though there are days when my kids are screaming that i wonder if i really really want them all this close together (our boys are 2 days shy of 15 months apart) but that only lasts for a few minutes

I love our crazy life

JJsmom · #8 February 7th, 2012, 07:18 AM

I do about 3 days out of the work week. I'm a nanny and sometimes this little boy (even though I love him to death) drives me crazy! But then I think, he's not my kid and I can't raise him the way I would my own baby. I know my babies will make me want to pull my hair out too sometimes but at least they'll be mine and I'll love them more than I could any other kid that's not mine.

Aillidh · #9 February 7th, 2012, 07:32 AM

For me? No, not really, I really, really, really want a family. Though financially thinking about the implications can be daunting, I'm looking forward to the experience whole-heartedly, even with the changes that'll come with it.

Shades of Grey · #10 February 7th, 2012, 07:40 AM

Sometimes. I mean, I absolutely want another child. In my logical, over-analytical head I think of what timing would work best. Most of my internal conflict is about timing, this year or not. I KNOW there is one more waiting, I just struggle with accepting it if it happens before I havent *decided* we are ready.

Shea131 · #11 February 7th, 2012, 09:45 AM

Yes sometimes I worry about loving a second baby as much as peyton or worry about peyton not feeling as loved when a new baby arrives.and sometimes that scares me into not wanting anymore. But I know in my head that those are normal fears and that I will of course have enough love for everyone. And right now we r potty training peyton and sometimes I think I really don't wanna go through this again with #2! Lol. But as far as the pregnancy and giving birth and having a newborn I definitely want another!

Steph604 · #12 February 7th, 2012, 02:05 PM

Definitely! I worry about if its the right time... I still have to go back to and do another year of school after, I wonder if we should wait to buy a house, wonder how its going to impact our DS having another one- but deep down I feel like given the situation we are in for us it makes the most sense to do it now instead of later so I feel confident that it will work out!

mom2pne · #13 February 7th, 2012, 02:15 PM

Yes!!!! Especially, with how my kids are wearing me thin and I've noticed I'm yelling and even swearing more often. I used to be so patient and rarely swear and when I would it would be dang or crap. No wonder Lennox is saying shut the F up.

StacieRN · #14 February 10th, 2012, 12:27 PM

Yes, all the time. Because I don't think I could make it through another late loss. I'd lose too much of myself and I don't know that'd I'd make it back..I just lose it completely. I hang on by a thread as it is.

forever and a day · #15 February 17th, 2012, 06:35 PM

Yes, I have moments of doubt. I know I want more children, and DF wants children, but my concern is for my DD. Just disrupting life for her, she's an only child right now and is far past the point where she wouldn't remember not having a sibling, so I worry about how it will effect her sometimes. But deep down I know she'll be fine, probably happy even, and it's just that mommy-thing that I worry over it.