[TerriLF]

Well my birth control perscription was up this month and my apt isn't until September 10th with my new OB/GYN. We didn't like the one I went to when I had Audrey so we have decided to go back to my other OB/GYN that delivered Cole and was much more pleasant. Well anyways..I told my husband this and said we will have to use condoms until I get back on the pill. He said okay.
..Well last night we were ..well you know..and he didn't get a condom out. I told him that just pulling out wasn't a real reliable form of BC. He said it will be fine. This was all in the middle of sex..I know really sexy and intimate..lol..
I'm so confused now. Is this is way of saying, I want to not try but not totally prevent or is this him being his wishy washy self. Knowing my husband and our situation I think this is his was of trying to say he isn't totally against it but he doesn't want to plan anything. His reason for not wanting to try is he wants our kids to be spoiled rotten and get everything they want like they do know, I think they don't need everything they want and don't need 3 vacations a year. They need love and family. We are fine to support another child.
..What do you ladies think?....

[lil_fishy]

Men are so confusing! My guess is he might be ready to NTNP, or likes the idea of a baby but isn't 100% sure yet. Have you tried asking him (not in the middle of sex) or do you have a plan for when you are wanting to try and conceive again?

My DH is the opposite. We were supposed to NTNP and he keeps using protection.

[mandy5586]

Well...since it was in the middle of sex and condoms aren't exactly "fun", I would think he didn't want to put one on when caught up in the moment. KWIM? I know that I have been guilty of getting frustrated when DH has stopped to put one on and I DO NOT want TTC for another year!

Anyway, that's what I would gather from the situation. GL talking to him!

[TerriLF]

Yes we have talked about it recently and he isn't sure if he wants more children or not. I want another one and would like to start TTC after the new year. He said he just isn't sure yet and has left it at that.

[navywifey2003]

We talked about it a lot. And I am not on BC we use condoms as well, (hormonal BC is not my friend) and I always make him get one out before we start anything.

[irishblessing]

We use condoms and DH does that too. I know he definitely doesn't want to TTC of NTNP right now so I think it's just heat of the moment thing and they don't feel like getting one out so they are willing to take a minor risk.

[Mama.Angie]

I'm not TTC at the moment, but we do not use condoms. I wouldn't say that even makes us NTNP... we'd just not be unhappy if it did happen. Does that make sense? I see NTNP actually being more like not withdrawing but not tracking your cycles?

I agree it's a heat of the moment thing when it comes to the silliness of the during-sex-man-brain.