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Originally Posted by ~ Nicole ~
well considering I only have a 50% chance of being able to conceive naturally again due to DH issues I would be extremely grateful for anything including a difficult pregnancy. I think this is how most people faced with fertility issues would feel. Ive been on both sides.... conceiving easily and having fertility issues. I never had and never will have a month or season preferance. I am all for planning financially or around a life situation but picking and choosing which month seems like loosing focus of the main point that a child is a blessing. There are too many people out there who struggle or cannot have their own children at all that I would feel so ungrateful to complain about when I was pregnant or when my child was born. It is kind of sad to hear people say they dont want a baby certain months because of vacations and too many Bdays and other petty things when so many people would go through anything to have a baby at anytime a year and skip vacations and whatever else it too. Not trying to say anyone is right or wrong but most people if face with fertilty issues would change their view VERY quickly. That is just how I feel about this topic.
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I am so sorry you have to struggle with infertility. I cannot imagine how difficult that struggle would be, and my heart goes out to you immensely.
I can totally understand why you feel the way you do, but that being said, you shouldn't minimize how people feel about the topic because you or others have a different experience. I can't base everything I feel in life on the fact that someone somewhere has it more difficult than me.
I feel sympathy for everyone going through
anything difficult. Some things may seem trivial when you have trouble conceiving, like those of us who think about things like when we want or don't want kids...but for us, these are very legitimate feelings, thoughts and experiencing. Just as legitimate and important as your struggles with infertility are to you.
It *is* important to me to try to choose when I want to have a child, because I feel that having a child at a certain time in my life will drastically effect my future child, my current child and the rest of my family's life. I want the best for my family, and having a baby at the right time is something important to me.
Now I am not saying one is harder or easier or more or less important.
You can't just "tsk tsk" people because someone else, somewhere in the world has it harder.
