[Xtapolapocet]

My husband and I just had our son on Jan. 02, 2013, he was born via c-section.

My question is...how long after giving birth did you wait to TTC for your next child? We are thinking the 6-8 mos. range, but I don't know if that would be too soon. Anyone go through this before? If so, what did you do?

[Urchin]

My daughter was/is an "easy" baby, and I couldn't even contemplate thinking about having another child until she was around a year old...then I started entertaining the idea of when we'd TTC again. I was just so happy with her that I didn't feel the desire for another child. I was terrified of becoming pregnant again before that.. lol I think a big part of that was due to my complications I had with my first pregnancy though.

Now, I would be 100% fine with a baby if we got pregnant by surprise, but we now plan on waiting AT LEAST another year before TTC #2.

Everyone is so different when it comes to when they're ready for the next. I have friends who have spaced their kids 2 years apart, and said going from 1 to 2 was a really hard adjustment. Then I have another friend who got pregnant when her first was 6 months old and she seemed to adjust just fine.

There are benefits and downfalls to whatever decision you make. Is there a reason you'd like the kids to be closer together or further apart?

For me, I want our kids further apart because I think for me, i would better be able to balance more than once child if there was a space between them. I also love the infant stage, so I want to be able to "enjoy" that. If Audrina is in school when we have #2, I will get that chance to enjoy babyhood again. hehe.

A lot of people give me flack about spacing the kids apart (everyone has an opinion), saying that they won't have that "connection" that close-born siblings have. Personally, I was not close to any of my siblings (one 2 years younger, one 10 years younger) so I really don't put a lot of thought into the claim that kids will be close if they're born closer together.

That's all my point of view though I think if you get to the 6-9 month mark and feel ready then, then that will be great, but if not, there's no problem in waiting!

[sara1217]

I have a six year old daughter and an 8 month old daughter so they were 5.5 years apart. It is nice cause my older daughter helps out a lot but I want another baby now lol. I don't want to have such a huge gap again. By the time I had another baby DD1 would be 11! That is way to big of an age gap for me.

[~ Nicole ~]

You don't have to pick a time frame. Just enjoy your new baby now and when the time is right for #2 you will feel it. This is one of those things that is hard to plan exactly because so much can change in your situation or feelings in a short time. I did not even think I wanted more kids than one day I just got that feeling again. So I say don't worry about it right now and when you start to get the feeling of being ready than go for it.

[Jessimaaka]

Nicole has said it so well!

[irishblessing]

I started TTC my second when my first was 11 months. I had a MC and then it took 15 months after that to get pregnant again. I am happy with the spacing now, the first time felt too soon

[Mom2EthanAndJett]

I found out I was pregnant with #2 exactly a week before my first turned ONE! I love having a 20 month age gap!

[sugarloafbaby]

We conceived our 2nd when our 1st was 10 months old. So they are 18 months apart! There are things I love about it, but it is definitely not easy! Both of my girls were "difficult temperament" babies in their own ways though.

[melaniek85]

I only have the one child so far, I had via c section in Nov and we will start TTC #2 when he is about 10/11 months old.