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My husband and I just had our son on Jan. 02, 2013, he was born via c-section.
My question is...how long after giving birth did you wait to TTC for your next child? We are thinking the 6-8 mos. range, but I don't know if that would be too soon. Anyone go through this before? If so, what did you do?
My daughter was/is an "easy" baby, and I couldn't even contemplate thinking about having another child until she was around a year old...then I started entertaining the idea of when we'd TTC again. I was just so happy with her that I didn't feel the desire for another child. I was terrified of becoming pregnant again before that.. lol I think a big part of that was due to my complications I had with my first pregnancy though.
Now, I would be 100% fine with a baby if we got pregnant by surprise, but we now plan on waiting AT LEAST another year before TTC #2.
Everyone is so different when it comes to when they're ready for the next. I have friends who have spaced their kids 2 years apart, and said going from 1 to 2 was a really hard adjustment. Then I have another friend who got pregnant when her first was 6 months old and she seemed to adjust just fine.
There are benefits and downfalls to whatever decision you make. Is there a reason you'd like the kids to be closer together or further apart?
For me, I want our kids further apart because I think for me, i would better be able to balance more than once child if there was a space between them. I also love the infant stage, so I want to be able to "enjoy" that. If Audrina is in school when we have #2, I will get that chance to enjoy babyhood again. hehe.
A lot of people give me flack about spacing the kids apart (everyone has an opinion), saying that they won't have that "connection" that close-born siblings have. Personally, I was not close to any of my siblings (one 2 years younger, one 10 years younger) so I really don't put a lot of thought into the claim that kids will be close if they're born closer together.
That's all my point of view though I think if you get to the 6-9 month mark and feel ready then, then that will be great, but if not, there's no problem in waiting!
I have a six year old daughter and an 8 month old daughter so they were 5.5 years apart. It is nice cause my older daughter helps out a lot but I want another baby now lol. I don't want to have such a huge gap again. By the time I had another baby DD1 would be 11! That is way to big of an age gap for me.
You don't have to pick a time frame. Just enjoy your new baby now and when the time is right for #2 you will feel it. This is one of those things that is hard to plan exactly because so much can change in your situation or feelings in a short time. I did not even think I wanted more kids than one day I just got that feeling again. So I say don't worry about it right now and when you start to get the feeling of being ready than go for it.
We conceived our 2nd when our 1st was 10 months old. So they are 18 months apart! There are things I love about it, but it is definitely not easy! Both of my girls were "difficult temperament" babies in their own ways though.