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so even though DH has NOT changed his mind, he will be home during my ovulation time next month, may and June, so it is possible he could slip up, though a slim possibility.
I really don't think he will ever be on board with TTC, He says he was done with 1 and now he has 3.
The big arguement is that if he didn't want anymore kids he should have told me that when we started dating.. Audrey is here by sheer luck and we never even talked about how many children we would have, I was always in the mind that we would have two, but apparently we were never on the same page concerning that issue.. but I was 19 when we met and 21 when we got engaged, baby making just wasn't on my radar at that time.. though I would randomly say things about "when we have a family" it kinda makes me mad that HE gets to decide how many children we have..
and it's not like we have his other two a great deal of time, we get them in the summer.. and* I'M* the one who really takes care of all three 90% of the time, especially since he's gone for work half the time..
besides money he really can't give me a good reason.. and we're not struggling with money, we just paid off all the big debt..
as for sleepless nights and such, he only did that the first few weeks and only because my arm was broke and I couldn't pick her up or hold her to feed her or change her by myself.. not that I've minded I'm a SAHM and he works really hard so that's just how our household runs and I like it that way, but if I think I can handle another child I think that should be considered..
okay well I'm rambling, but 2 of my best friends just got pregnant and lots of new babies in my PR so my fever is sky high and I knew only you guys would understand..
DH would be fine "if" it happens, I told him if he really did not want another baby he should either go get snipped or use condoms.. he refuses to do either so he knows the risks. He didn't plan Audrey but he thinks she hung the moon, in fact he didn't plan any of his kids but once the pregnancy happened he was over it, he's like that.
I'm not gonna strap him down and make him slip up, if it's meant to be, then it will happen, I just HOPE AND PRAY it does lol
I know how you feel and it sucks. I hope you get your chance to have a second child. My husband didn't even want kids then when we started dating I already had my daughter. We had an oops and we lost that baby but it made him realize he wanted a baby. Now we have two beautiful daughters but I want another. He is not on the same page as me and I don't know if he ever will be. I'm hoping for super sperm lol.