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April 15th, 2009, 10:13 PM
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So my little guy will be a year old next week, and while all of my kids each had their weird little breastfeeding quirks, Gavin - if I am holding him - he wants the breast Out. Whether he's hungry or not. He'll finish nursing and I'll pull my shirt down. He will scream at me, yank my shirt back up, smile and then just start playing peek a boo with me or give kisses or play with a toy on my lap, etc. Paying no attention to the breast at all. But the instant I cover back up again - he goes on a mission to get it back out again! Now it wouldn't be that big of a deal, but I get cold very easy lol, and I like having clothes on! lol. So we go through this for at least 15 minutes any time I am holding him, then he finally gives up and decides he wants to go off and play on the floor. Hopefully he gets out of this phase soon lol. I do find it quite funny, but I don't want him doing that in public lol. I have no problem nursing in public, but I just don't want him ripping my shirt off just to have it out there in the open not nursing.

The boy is just too much like his father lol. My dh keeps telling me I need to make him and Gavin each a shirt that says 'Boob-Man' and me one that says 'Boob-a-licious'.
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April 15th, 2009, 10:24 PM
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lol @ the tshirt idea


but i know how that BOOBS OUT NOW! is..
Tanja demands to have access to both boobs at the same time anytime
she will not nurse unless she can see and hold both the nipples... needless to say NIP is becoming a little hard
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April 16th, 2009, 06:51 AM
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April 16th, 2009, 08:19 AM
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Well - I am not sure what to tell you, as I am not sure how you want to handle it. At about a year I had set in my mind I wanted to make it to two...so I started setting boundaries, because I knew that it would not be possible for me without them. I found a great article that I will have to find again for you, about establishing some gentle boundaries inch by inch & moving away from full access to asking politely, etc... It worked well for us, it did take some time, but I was a MUCH happier BF momma with that. I would be FINE I think to walk around topless & let him have full access 24/7 if I lived a life that allowed that - but it is a bit of a PITA to say the least & awkward at best at times.....

I do think it is adorable though & there was part of me that was sad to discourage some of these behaviors, as I truly believe my breasts WERE Jonah's comfort object (in many ways they still are)...but I figured it was better to try & adjust behavior & continue to nurse than to get myself flustered with nursing... I think whatever works for you is awesome. I just know it is hard to try in live in North America with a breast feeding relationship that is more common in Africa. That is the big joke around my house with my teenage niece....when she moved in I asked her if she was ever uncomfortable seeing topless women in Africa in National Geographic...she answered "No" so I said "Good - just think of this house as Africa then & you will never be uncomfortable...LOL". So she still tells her friends when they come over "Welcome to Africa"...

I think you SHOULD get the T-shirts...even if it's just to take a picture! That is stinkin' hilarious!

Well - I am not sure what to tell you, as I am not sure how you want to handle it. At about a year I had set in my mind I wanted to make it to two...so I started setting boundaries, because I knew that it would not be possible for me without them. I found a great article that I will have to find again for you, about establishing some gentle boundaries inch by inch & moving away from full access to asking politely, etc... It worked well for us, it did take some time, but I was a MUCH happier BF momma with that. I would be FINE I think to walk around topless & let him have full access 24/7 if I lived a life that allowed that - but it is a bit of a PITA to say the least & awkward at best at times.....

I do think it is adorable though & there was part of me that was sad to discourage some of these behaviors, as I truly believe my breasts WERE Jonah's comfort object (in many ways they still are)...but I figured it was better to try & adjust behavior & continue to nurse than to get myself flustered with nursing... I think whatever works for you is awesome. I just know it is hard to try in live in North America with a breast feeding relationship that is more common in Africa. That is the big joke around my house with my teenage niece....when she moved in I asked her if she was ever uncomfortable seeing topless women in Africa in National Geographic...she answered "No" so I said "Good - just think of this house as Africa then & you will never be uncomfortable...LOL". So she still tells her friends when they come over "Welcome to Africa"...

I think you SHOULD get the T-shirts...even if it's just to take a picture! That is stinkin' hilarious!
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April 16th, 2009, 08:21 AM
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LOL Ian has a new thing of pulling at the top of my shirt, not to feed but just anging on when I am carrying him. Unfortunatley he does it such a way that the buttons pop undone.
So back to football jerseys for me, LOL
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April 16th, 2009, 08:21 AM
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That is the big joke around my house with my teenage niece....when she moved in I asked her if she was ever uncomfortable seeing topless women in Africa in National Geographic...she answered "No" so I said "Good - just think of this house as Africa then & you will never be uncomfortable...LOL". So she still tells her friends when they come over "Welcome to Africa"...
Too funny!
but its a nice way of thinking about it

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That is the big joke around my house with my teenage niece....when she moved in I asked her if she was ever uncomfortable seeing topless women in Africa in National Geographic...she answered "No" so I said "Good - just think of this house as Africa then & you will never be uncomfortable...LOL". So she still tells her friends when they come over "Welcome to Africa"...
Too funny!
but its a nice way of thinking about it
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April 16th, 2009, 11:04 AM
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That is soo funny and cute!
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April 16th, 2009, 12:00 PM
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but i know how that BOOBS OUT NOW! is..
Tanja demands to have access to both boobs at the same time anytime
she will not nurse unless she can see and hold both the nipples... needless to say NIP is becoming a little hard
Abby used to do this too. It was cute for a while but soon got to be too much. I just had to insist that the other side stayed covered, despite her protests. Like Beckie said, sometimes you have to set boundaries for your own comfort.
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April 16th, 2009, 12:06 PM
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Yeah, she has gotten better about it now throws a little fit sometimes about it but itsd better lol
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April 16th, 2009, 12:22 PM
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Yeah I agree with the boundaries because I didn't set those boundaries and now she needs both boobs out all the time. It's just a good thing we don't have much company over.

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April 16th, 2009, 12:52 PM
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Yeah I agree with the boundaries because I didn't set those boundaries and now she needs both boobs out all the time. It's just a good thing we don't have much company over.

Well I heard you just nurse setting in the picture window with both bb's flappin' in the wind & waving to passing cars, but no one will stop in. Not sayin' it's true or anything...it's just what Darcy said.


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April 16th, 2009, 02:34 PM
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April 16th, 2009, 04:14 PM
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That is hilarious!
I nurse Emma to sleep and lately she wants to hold the other one while she is trying to sleep. I remove her hand and cover up that side. I found that it helps to distract her by putting something else in her hand.
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April 16th, 2009, 04:31 PM
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this thread cracked me up.
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April 16th, 2009, 08:58 PM
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Well I heard you just nurse setting in the picture window with both bb's flappin' in the wind & waving to passing cars, but no one will stop in. Not sayin' it's true or anything...it's just what Darcy said.


lol this made me think of something I did a couple summers ago. I had on a nursing tank, you know the ones with the flap that folds down? Well my mom called, baby fell asleep, I laid her down and walked outside - the other kids were out there playing. Here I am just casually walking up and down my driveway, beautiful day out, a few passing cars honked - so I waved (wondering who they were lol). Then my 2 year old at the time came over to me (this is after I had been outside at least 10 minutes) and started pointing saying 'Booby HaHa!'

I look down and yep - you got it - nursing flap was still down and there out in the open was my breast lol. No wonder those cars were honking!!
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April 16th, 2009, 09:05 PM
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It's not too much of an issue right now since I never have company - and rarely go out anywhere unless its shopping and during those times he's in the sling anyway. I like the 'welcome to Africa' lol. I never try to cover up at all while nursing when I'm at home. I catch all kinds of crap from family about that - them saying that my older kids shouldn't be exposed to my breasts like that. Especially my boys (who are 10, 7 and 4). But I am very happy that my kids have been so exposed to that - they are growing up knowing what breasts are truly used for. And not looking at them as something 'naughty'. I do worry sometimes about my 7 year old though. He will talk about anything and everything to anyone, so I could totally see him saying one day in school something like "i see my moms boobs all the time" lol. I personally would think it's funny - but the people at the school - well probably not so much.
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April 16th, 2009, 09:49 PM
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lol this made me think of something I did a couple summers ago. I had on a nursing tank, you know the ones with the flap that folds down? Well my mom called, baby fell asleep, I laid her down and walked outside - the other kids were out there playing. Here I am just casually walking up and down my driveway, beautiful day out, a few passing cars honked - so I waved (wondering who they were lol). Then my 2 year old at the time came over to me (this is after I had been outside at least 10 minutes) and started pointing saying 'Booby HaHa!'

I look down and yep - you got it - nursing flap was still down and there out in the open was my breast lol. No wonder those cars were honking!!


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It's not too much of an issue right now since I never have company - and rarely go out anywhere unless its shopping and during those times he's in the sling anyway. I like the 'welcome to Africa' lol. I never try to cover up at all while nursing when I'm at home. I catch all kinds of crap from family about that - them saying that my older kids shouldn't be exposed to my breasts like that. Especially my boys (who are 10, 7 and 4). But I am very happy that my kids have been so exposed to that - they are growing up knowing what breasts are truly used for. And not looking at them as something 'naughty'. I do worry sometimes about my 7 year old though. He will talk about anything and everything to anyone, so I could totally see him saying one day in school something like "i see my moms boobs all the time" lol. I personally would think it's funny - but the people at the school - well probably not so much.
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lol this made me think of something I did a couple summers ago. I had on a nursing tank, you know the ones with the flap that folds down? Well my mom called, baby fell asleep, I laid her down and walked outside - the other kids were out there playing. Here I am just casually walking up and down my driveway, beautiful day out, a few passing cars honked - so I waved (wondering who they were lol). Then my 2 year old at the time came over to me (this is after I had been outside at least 10 minutes) and started pointing saying 'Booby HaHa!'

I look down and yep - you got it - nursing flap was still down and there out in the open was my breast lol. No wonder those cars were honking!!

LOL!

That made my day !

I have those tanks too and i can't count how many times i keep forgetting them open!
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April 17th, 2009, 06:10 AM
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omg.. i am laughing so much right now!!! The longest ive nursed is 6 months (tomorrow) so i am not sure what to expect.. but your storys are making me think ill be staying at home a lot .. hehehe..

and i LOVE the t-shirt idea! ur hubby is funny..

and the story about the booby hanging out the nursing flap .. and waving to neighbors.. hahahahahahaha.... i can SO see myself doing something like that!

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