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April 20th, 2009, 06:51 PM
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I wanted to post this here since this is the only place I get positive responses from others about co-sleeping. After thinking about it more, it was horribly insensitive for me to post this though. I'm sorry ladies I more-so wanted to get an idea of how to respond when negative articles about co-sleeping or bed sharing are posted. I'm always at a loss, and I want to encourage others not to be scared away from negative news articles.
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April 20th, 2009, 07:48 PM
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A lady in my PR is from Milwaukie and posted about one of those articles today. It seems like most of those deaths are more from unsafe co-sleeping. I'm a big believer in co-sleeping *if* it's done safely. I don't let DH sleep with us if he's had more than one beer, I wouldn't sleep with Lily if I was on pain meds, etc. Bed-sharing/co-sleeping is the way a large percentage of the world is used to sleeping, and I can't believe it has suddenly become unsafe. Even in America just 100 years ago it wasn't the norm to *not* share at least a room with your children. My DH remembers in Korea sleeping with his parents until they moved to America when he was 6.

I feel like these articles cause people to be afraid of co-sleeping and give a very distorted image of it. They make me sad and mad at the same time.
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April 20th, 2009, 09:20 PM
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Exactly my thoughts Shelley. I don't think it's co-sleeping that has become unsafe, but more-so how we sleep. We use a lot of pillows, heavy blankets or comforters and some parents don't make thier bed a safe sleeping environment for a baby.
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I'm always at a loss on how to respond to these when someone posts them in my PR. This is the second one posted in just a month. Usually people respond by saying they are going to stop co-sleeping, and I don't know what to say to ease thier minds.

These articles make me mad, because they blame co-sleeping when it's not the thing to blame. I think people forget that babies didn't have cribs, all parents slept with thier children, it was just the natural thing to do. I hate how these articles insight fear into people, making them think that a crib is the only option.
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I'm always at a loss on how to respond to these when someone posts them in my PR. This is the second one posted in just a month. Usually people respond by saying they are going to stop co-sleeping, and I don't know what to say to ease thier minds.

These articles make me mad, because they blame co-sleeping when it's not the thing to blame. I think people forget that babies didn't have cribs, all parents slept with thier children, it was just the natural thing to do. I hate how these articles insight fear into people, making them think that a crib is the only option.
When I come across this type of stuff being spread...I try to share info on safe co-sleeping habits & remind people that there is a HUGE difference between incidentally throwing an infant or child in bed with you because of a bad night (up a lot more than usual, teething, sick, etc) and making a decision to co-sleep as a "permanent" sleep situation (not that I mean permanent like 20 years....but even "permanent" as in we don't even own a crib, or don't plan to use it right now...). Anyway....the two deaths I have known of IRL - one was a baby left alone in a water bed (so the baby may have been co-sleeping while the parent was there, but was alone when the accident happened & water bed are co-sleeping no no's anyway) & the other one was a momma that had been drinking. Both of them broke my heart & I know the momma's didn't mean to cause any harm - but neither of them fall within safe co-sleeping guidelines...and that SHOULD be what people notice...instead people blame the fact that they were in bed with an adult...

The media LOVES this stuff - as it isn't very attention grabbing to tell the full story & show it for what it is. It is better to try to discredit a parenting choice they see as a "fad" than to just come out with the true story. I might be more upset with the media over this - but I also realize they do it over everything...I was the victim in a robbery once & the "details" they reported were so incredibly inaccurate it was amazing. I guess the real story wasn't exciting enough.
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