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  #1  
May 7th, 2009, 02:04 PM
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How is your relationship with your doctor/midwife and your child's pediatrician? Do you feel supported? Or do you avoid talking about things because you know they don't agree?
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May 7th, 2009, 02:23 PM
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I dont really have a doctor (well do sort of) and my child does not really have a pediatrician (well sort of).

With socialized medicine I have a doctor based from where I live. Then there is the work health care I qualify for and there is another doctor (or few not sure how that works) I can see through that. We dont really do annual checkups which is a shame but they have a bit of shortage of doctors plus no insurance companies to please so I rarely see a doctor. I have seen my regular doctor once since I moved 3 years ago and that was bit over a year ago and I think I used the work doctor once maybe. Appointments with any of those doctors is usually a fairly generous 15 minutes if I remember correctly (rarely see one) and I dont see that I'll be discussing AP or childrearing with any of them.

As for my daughter she has seen a pedi 3 times and will see one once more when she is 18 months. Her other checkups are covered by a nurse. I suppose some AP values have been brought up there. I dont really ask them for parenting advice and they rarely offer. The only thing that I disagreed was when I felt pushed into giving her more solids because of her age. I had been doing it slowly simply because she wasnt really interested. That checkup happened to be one with the pedi so I got both the pedi and nurse to disagree with on that.

We just had her one year checkup on Monday and both breastfeeding and cosleeping were brought up.

I just had to go and make a complicated answer now lol.
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May 7th, 2009, 02:24 PM
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May 7th, 2009, 03:06 PM
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Lily's pedi and I get along great. She's extremely AP and she really listens to me.

My ob/gyn was horrible. She would yell at me for gaining weight in my 2nd and 3rd trimester...she wanted me to diet because I'm about 15lbs over my "ideal" weight. It was not a fun time. And she thought me wanting a natural childbirth was ridiculous. I wasn't able to change doctors though at the time, but luckily she wasn't on call the night I went into labor. So, Lily was delivered by a CNM instead who was awesome. I've since changed my ob/gyn care to a NP who used to be a CNM as well. She is much more along the lines as I am for childbirth, etc.
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May 7th, 2009, 04:03 PM
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i definitely dont tell my ped stuff... and every time it comes to vaccinations i gotta explain why i am skipping stuff and spreading the shots out..

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May 7th, 2009, 04:45 PM
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I've recently had to switch Pedi's for A and I really like her, she was really direct about the delayed vac thing but not at all judgemental, I think she just really wanted to know that we were educated about our decision.I don't ask for parenting or nutritional advice from my Dr.s as I studied nutrition extensively and really don't think parenting is any of my Dr.s business.

I switched to a midwifery practice for this birth and though I did not enjoy one of the Dr.s in the practice, I only met her once and hopefully will have a nice esay natural birth and not have to see ANY Dr....The Dr I do see at the practice is AWESOME...and its a GUY!!!! we will use the midwives for everything though.
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May 7th, 2009, 05:07 PM
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I finally found a pedi I like for Brayden, of course she is on maternity leave now for who knows how long (I'm kidding, of course she deserves it) and I am not fond of her partners (but I'll tolerate them until she gets back). I tell her everything and she is supportive, but with us being on a military base she just laughs and tells me not to tell all the other docs.

My OB....don't get me started on that! I plan on going with a birth center for our next child, even though we will have to foot some of the cost versus having everything covered with a hospital birth.
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May 7th, 2009, 07:13 PM
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I love both my doc and her pedi. I am totally supported by both
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May 7th, 2009, 08:56 PM
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I finally found a pedi I like for Brayden, of course she is on maternity leave now for who knows how long (I'm kidding, of course she deserves it) and I am not fond of her partners (but I'll tolerate them until she gets back). I tell her everything and she is supportive, but with us being on a military base she just laughs and tells me not to tell all the other docs.

My OB....don't get me started on that! I plan on going with a birth center for our next child, even though we will have to foot some of the cost versus having everything covered with a hospital birth.
Isnt the birth center way cheaper than the hospital birth? So twisted that it isnt covered.
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May 8th, 2009, 06:01 AM
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We have a gp who I do like. His father was dh's family gp until he retired and he has been dh's gp for about 20 some years now. I'm sure he thinks I am a bit odd, but he doesnt say much. One other dr in the practice is really great and his wife bf for 2 years which is unheard of here. The other ones, I refuse to see.
We also have a health vistor who comes more often when they are little but will see billy for the last time this summer. She has at least read Dr sears and doesnt seem to have any problems with AP. Some of the other ones werent so good, one flat out said if I co slept I didnt care anything about my baby. Most of the midiwves have been pretty good, some were awful and I had one very annoyed because it just rujined her paperwork if i wouldnt put Ian a schedule at 1 day old and only allow him to feed every four hours, in spite of the fact that he had trouble feeding and could only feed for a few minutes at a time, she felt he would learn to eat when he got a chance if i wasnt so stubborn. We also got a lot of grief for wanting a homebirth etc...
Wherever possible though, i would really reccomend changing drs if they are very unsupportive, its not worth the grief.
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May 8th, 2009, 07:09 AM
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We usually see the nurse practioner, who i really like. She has an 8 month old son so i feel like she can relate. I'm not sure how AP she is, but I like a good argument anyway .

She did seem shocked that I planned to b/f for at least one year, but it was shocked in a good sort of way.
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May 8th, 2009, 07:10 AM
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My GP is old-school, but then I would only take Ben to see him if there was a problem, and we wouldn't discuss parenting issues - that's not his job.

We see health visitors on a regular basis in the UK (basically a specialist nurse). One of them once told me I should be leaving Ben to cry for 5 minutes for naps, otherwise he'd never learn to self-settle. Apart from that I haven't had any major disagreements with any of them. Then again I don't tend to raise issues that wouldn't get the sort of advice I'd want to hear.
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May 8th, 2009, 08:14 AM
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I've been with my kids ped. for 12 years and LOVE her I love that when I bring my 1 year old in and answer yes to her "are u still nursing" question she says "Good for you! Now be sure to try to keep going until at least 2 years old". I love that even though she is pro-vax, she is very supportive of my decision to delay/selective vax. I love that she helps me in choosing natural remedies over prescription remedies. I love how all the nurses crowd into the room every time we are there because they just have to see what kind of cute cloth diaper the kids are in this time lol. And I will never forget the year she called me up on Christmas Eve asking me to stop by the office where they had new winter coats/hats/mittens, a basket of food, and an envelope of cash to buy the kids Christmas Gifts when we were having a very rough year.

My midwife Bernie is awesome too. I've been to her through my last 3 pregnancies and just love her I love that every aspect of my care was always discussed with me first and what *I* wanted was respected and honored. I love that she called me up a couple weeks ago asking why I haven't been back in to see her yet lol (she expected I'd be pregnant again by now, her and the nurses started betting on how long before I'd be back when I went in for my 6 week checkup after Gavin lol). I love that she never questioned or ridiculed my decision to have a large family. I love that during my labors she never once left my side and knew every word that I needed to hear. I miss her!! I better hurry and get pregnant so I can go see her again haha.
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May 8th, 2009, 10:07 AM
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Both Emma and I see the same doctor (she's a family practicy physician). She has 4 kids that she BF until they were over a year old, so she's very supportive of BFing. She always tells me Emma is gaining weight perfectly and not to let anyone tell me she's too small and needs formula. She also is in favor of not starting solids until 5 1/2 to 6 months. She has told me that babies should not bed share, but she said it just a standard thing she tells everyone, not anything aimed at me in particular. I don't bedshare except occasionally when taking a short nap, so I didn't say anything about it. We are vaxing, so I don't know how she feels about not vaxing, but I have a feeling be supportive even if she didn't agree. I opted not to have Emma get the hep b vax at birth and to wait until her 2 month appt and she didn't even mention anything about my deciding to wait.

During my pregnacy she was not into a lot of unnecesary test and interventions. I declined most of the screening tests for birth defects, etc and she never tried to change my mind, in fact she told me that she would do the same. I did end up getting an epidural, but she was supportive of my plans for an unmedicated birth. When I asked about getting an epi, she suggested trying some other things first (changing position, taking a hot shower, some IV pain meds, etc) to see if that would help before making my final decision on whether or not to get an epi.
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May 9th, 2009, 05:31 PM
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I really like my OB and especially my hospital and the nursing staff where I had my kids. They were fully supportive of me in my first pregnancy and delivery, I ended up with a c-section but it was my choice (I pushed for almost 3 hours and he didn't move at all, he was sunny side up with his hands by his face and didnt get in a good position). I was strongly supported in BFing even though he had a hard time in the beginning.

With my second child they were all behind me in my desire for a VBAC. Well, until the end when we realized he was going to be a lot bigger than my first, then I opted for a repeate c-section after reading about the risks. Good thing too since he ended up being 12lbs 7oz LOL!

My pedi is awesome, I've always been open and honest about nursing past a year, co-sleeping, holding them alot etc. He has never said a bad thing or lectured me, he always says "I don't live in your house so what you do is your choice, but I have ideas if you ever need them" I smile and say "I know what your ideas are and they are just not for me" LOL
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May 17th, 2009, 09:12 PM
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The kids pediatrician is partially AP himself I think. We always have interesting conversations and he values my opinions.
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May 18th, 2009, 08:35 AM
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I like Oliver's doctor so far. I told her right away that we are delaying vaxs and she was fine with what ever we wanted. When it comes to co-sleeping and a couple other things I don't tell her about it. She has already made some comments about "He is in his bed, not yours right??" I have a strong feeling she would not like him sleeping in our bed.
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May 18th, 2009, 08:42 AM
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Had a funny experience with my daughter's pedi last week. DD had pink eye and I took her in to confirm the diagnosis. I also got a prescription for meds but I told the doctor I was going to treat it at home with breastmilk for the first 24-48 hours to see if that would work.

She literally turned the other way and told me she didn't want to hear it.

P.S. The bm didn't really seem to be working and putting drops in her eyes was pretty traumatizing so we did end up using the medicated drops and it cleared up quickly with that.
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May 18th, 2009, 09:35 AM
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My OB is pretty old school but he does listen to me and take my opinion into consideration. And hey he DID let me have a VBAC and did not even fight me on it! I really really really like him! He is so calm and cool and keeps me grounded when I let my fears run away with me...I am not good at being pg and have a history of RPL so I always have something to worry about.

My kids pedi is the best! She is not 100% AP but really is in tune with children and how they naturally work. When I had my DD and took her in for her 1st shots the pedi recomened I BF her during and after the shot to lessen the pain and comfert her. And when DS had RSV this winter she told me take him to bed with us. And since DD is very well spoken the pedi always asks her whats going on and how she feeling. And did I mention that she taught me how to make my own baby food! And I did not even have to ask her about it...it is a standard thing she teachers her kids parents about the time solids are introduced. I my kids pedi!
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