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May 8th, 2009, 02:35 PM
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Hi girls. I lurk here a lot and used to post from time to time, but have stayed away in the recent months. I have felt uncomfortable to post here because of a decision I made, but I remind myself that being attached is not an all or nothing concept.

I'm Breanna, mommy to Reid (8 months), I just quit pumping at work about a month ago because I was yeilding just 4-5oz/day. We still BF when we are together and LOVING every moment of it! This may sound odd, but I see myself becoming more AP as my son gets older. I have strong views and ideas as to how I will parent, mostly due to my own childhood and the wonderful relationship that I have with my mother. During the infant/baby stage, I haven't been the most AP mom out there, but it is where my heart lays. I believe in natural birth (although I failed at that....will try again next time...I WILL do it next time), co-sleeping (for as long as it feels right), BFing, and child-led parenting (95% of the time). One of my biggest pet peeves is "I am not here to be my child's friend" I believe in EARNING your child's respect, and so comes a friendship and a strong parent authority.

I did do CIO with my son, and it's something that I am partially grateful for (I was not able to handle the lack of sleep while working and being up at 5:45 am every morning) but mostly extremely guilty about. More often than not, I regret it, and some days, the guilt is overwhelming.

I hope its okay if I post from time to time.
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May 8th, 2009, 03:32 PM
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Welcome back! I'm so glad you came out to play again!!!
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May 8th, 2009, 07:24 PM
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May 8th, 2009, 07:46 PM
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Welcome back! You're right, AP is not an all or nothing thing. We all must do what we feel is best for our kids. I can relate to the early mornings, though. I've actually been feeling guilty because I've pretty much stopped trying to get Toby in the crib at all now, and he sleeps contentedly between DH and I all night. When I get up at 5:30, I just can't be up all night trying to get him in the crib! I've been SO tempted to let him CIO a few times, but I could never quite do it. I do understand that sleep-deprived desperation that happens.

Anyway, that was a bit rambling. Welcome back again!
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May 8th, 2009, 09:29 PM
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Hi girls. I lurk here a lot and used to post from time to time, but have stayed away in the recent months. I have felt uncomfortable to post here because of a decision I made, but I remind myself that being attached is not an all or nothing concept.

I'm Breanna, mommy to Reid (8 months), I just quit pumping at work about a month ago because I was yeilding just 4-5oz/day. We still BF when we are together and LOVING every moment of it! This may sound odd, but I see myself becoming more AP as my son gets older. I have strong views and ideas as to how I will parent, mostly due to my own childhood and the wonderful relationship that I have with my mother. During the infant/baby stage, I haven't been the most AP mom out there, but it is where my heart lays. I believe in natural birth (although I failed at that....will try again next time...I WILL do it next time), co-sleeping (for as long as it feels right), BFing, and child-led parenting (95% of the time). One of my biggest pet peeves is "I am not here to be my child's friend" I believe in EARNING your child's respect, and so comes a friendship and a strong parent authority.

I did do CIO with my son, and it's something that I am partially grateful for (I was not able to handle the lack of sleep while working and being up at 5:45 am every morning) but mostly extremely guilty about. More often than not, I regret it, and some days, the guilt is overwhelming.

I hope its okay if I post from time to time.
Breanna!!! It's awesome to see you back posting! I've wanted to know if you got the Lascal babycarrier, if you liked it, how work was going and so on. It's great to see this update.

You know, I have lots of regrets already too. I think it's just the condition of being a mom. You're darn tooting being "AP" is not an all or nothing thing. We do such an awesome job as moms but are so hard on ourselves. No human is perfect but us moms sure do try to be. I just hope you find this place is a safe, comfortable place to talk about your AP goals, ideas, and even the bad days we all have from time to time. We all carry some guilt about something so I hope in time we all learn to forgive ourselves. ((big hugs))

I sure hope to see you jump in here again ~ Happy Mothers Day!

Cheers,

Michelle
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May 8th, 2009, 10:24 PM
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Welcome back Breanna!
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May 9th, 2009, 06:03 AM
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Actually I think if you can get through parenthood without any regrets you're just blind.
We all have them, and AP certainly isnt all or nothing, but I wanted to comment on your statement that you "failed" at natural childbirth. Of course I wasnt there, but i think most often its the medical system that fails us. I've never had a completely natural childbirth, 2 inductions and one emergency c section. There were so many mistakes made with the inductions, and I didnt really question, but by my third I had researched everything and was so determined to have a natural birth I insisted on home birth, still didnt get one, he ended up transverse breach. You do the best you can, but if it doesnt go to plan, its not a failure, and I hope you dont feel guilty for something you cant control.
I'd better stop now before I go into a raving vent about modern obstetric practices.
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May 9th, 2009, 04:40 PM
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Welcome Back!!!! I hope you do stay and I hope you are able to find peace for yourself. Is your son happy and thriving? Most likely thats a big YES.......Just be the best Mom you can each day,they really just want our unconditional love each day.
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