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July 20th, 2009, 08:27 PM
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So my sisters baby is ten days old. She is on facebook. She posted about how Ethan wants to be held when he is sleeping. One of her friends told her she should let him CIO. This is what they said.

know it's harsh and really freaking hard right now, but let him cry. he's got to get used to sleeping on his own early, or it will be even harder to transition later

I posted to try rolled up blankets under the mattress because he does not like to lay flat. I said in my opinion is way to young to let them CIO.
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July 20th, 2009, 10:53 PM
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Sick. I couldn't imagine a baby that young CIO.
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July 21st, 2009, 04:52 AM
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ugh its disgusting. tell her to try swaddling and white noise... maica wouldn't sleep without them in the early days.
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July 21st, 2009, 05:34 AM
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I would mention that not even professional supporters CIO at that young an age so in the meantime you are more than happy to support her in some gentle night time parenting techniques and that you hope she never feels the risks of CIO are worth taking at any age but that you love her no matter what because she is your sister.
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July 21st, 2009, 06:09 AM
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i have seen links on JM about the harm (physical) on CIO that young-- mostly dehydration. maybe you can track that info down. that is just mindblowing, but in my PR, women were giving their babies rice at a few weeks old to get them to sleep thru the night. i personally do not mind night time feedings, cause i know DD is hungry!!!! and i am back at work and know that my baby is more important than sleep!

tell her she should cosleep, it will make it easier
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July 21st, 2009, 06:47 AM
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I would get her a couple of good books if you can and encourage her to trust her instincts. Almost all mammals naturally respond to the cries of their young, A mother generally will have a natural insinct to care for the child. How sad people will follow some friends advice without any research rather then their own instincts, hope your sis ignores them!
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July 21st, 2009, 08:09 AM
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I chatted with her on Facebook and it sounds like she will probaly not let him CIO at this point in time. She said she is going to try rocking him to sleep and laying him down and do so each time he wakes up. She really does not want to co sleep. Its not for everything.. I told my grandma if the baby is not sleeping she may just go to co sleeping so she can get sleep lol..
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July 21st, 2009, 08:11 AM
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I'm glad you talked to her and glad to hear her being responsive to the babies needs. What a great update!
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July 21st, 2009, 08:21 AM
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Oh yeah I forgot that my sisters SIL backed me up and said the same thing. She told her babies can not be spoiled at this age. To enjoy the cuddles because they grow so fast.
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July 21st, 2009, 12:48 PM
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Yes, even CIO advocates do not, in general, ever recommend CIO before 6 months. After 6 months, they claim it is "safe" to assume the baby is not crying out of hunger, but before then, you risk dehydration.
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July 21st, 2009, 01:25 PM
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i ditto telling her that not even a pediatrician would tell her to let the baby cry it out yet.. thats crazyness. a baby that yougn is crying for a reason.. even if the only reason is becuz they need some bonding secure time with mommy!

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July 22nd, 2009, 01:54 AM
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So my sisters baby is ten days old. She is on facebook. She posted about how Ethan wants to be held when he is sleeping. One of her friends told her she should let him CIO. This is what they said.

know it's harsh and really freaking hard right now, but let him cry. he's got to get used to sleeping on his own early, or it will be even harder to transition later

I posted to try rolled up blankets under the mattress because he does not like to lay flat. I said in my opinion is way to young to let them CIO.
That made me FURIOUS!!!
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July 22nd, 2009, 06:31 AM
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only 10 days makes me sad. I hate CIO.
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July 24th, 2009, 01:06 PM
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I can remember I felt at my wit's end one day & was telling my sister how often Ds cries....mostly I just felt overwhelmed by what to do for him, because I so badly wanted to be able to soothe him. I also wanted to be able to take a shower without listening to him scream the whole time. I would wait until my mom or Dh or someone could attend to him to shower, but still could NOT stand to take a shower & have him cry in someone else's arms. I think now I might be able to do that a little easier....at that time I just felt so much intense need to make sure that I was doing everything I could for him.... Anyway, he was somewhere near that age when my sister said "Can't you just lay him down in a safe place & take a break?" I flipped out" What do you mean LET him cry???" She later said she thought about it after we got off the phone & she didn't let her LO's cry at that age either...she just didn't know what to tell me & wanted to help. I think people sometimes just don't think. In my recollection my sis never let her kids CIO, so I am not sure if she thought I was going to shake him or what.....
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July 24th, 2009, 08:10 PM
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I was at my sisters place yesterday. Her SIL either is sending the no cry solution book or suggested it.
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July 25th, 2009, 12:16 AM
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Ick that is way too young to CIO! If baby was older I might agree, but 10 days old, heck no!
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July 25th, 2009, 07:21 AM
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i have seen links on JM about the harm (physical) on CIO that young-- mostly dehydration. maybe you can track that info down. that is just mindblowing, but in my PR, women were giving their babies rice at a few weeks old to get them to sleep thru the night. i personally do not mind night time feedings, cause i know DD is hungry!!!! and i am back at work and know that my baby is more important than sleep!
Anna still needs to eat throughout the night. If she wakes after 1-2 hours, she will easily let DH put her back to sleep. If it's been 3+ hours though, she will not, she won't go back to sleep until I feed her. My instincts and experience tell me that she is truely hungry and does need to eat around the clock. It makes me wonder how many hungry babies CIO, when all they need is a little food
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July 25th, 2009, 09:40 AM
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Anna still needs to eat throughout the night. If she wakes after 1-2 hours, she will easily let DH put her back to sleep. If it's been 3+ hours though, she will not, she won't go back to sleep until I feed her. My instincts and experience tell me that she is truely hungry and does need to eat around the clock. It makes me wonder how many hungry babies CIO, when all they need is a little food
I wonder that too
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January 18th, 2010, 06:37 PM
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This makes me terribly sad as well. I also have a boy who needs to eat at night. I know this since he actively draws milk from me in a voracious manner around 3-4am. I may gripe about it, but I would not hesitate a second to go to him at night. He is my baby. I am charged with caring for him, and tending to his needs. I was never told just to tend to his physical needs. A need is a need, rather emotional or physical. Some people seem to think that if their diaper is dry, and the baby is fed then they should be able to be all by themselves. They need what they need and that is that.
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January 18th, 2010, 06:49 PM
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Why don't people understand that baby's that young are not crying to manipulate??? They are crying because a NEED is not being met. That's it!!! Crying it out doesn't fulfill their need. It only proves to the baby that you're not going to meet its needs. So sad
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