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September 18th, 2009, 03:55 PM
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Hi Mommies,
I thought I could go all the way with nursing..and I can. I am just wondering if there is a healthy way I can help him along. Marley co-slept with my husband and I up until his second birthday or so. Now he sleeps in a crib next to our bed. Morning nursing is the one that is the most challenging. He wakes up at around 6 or 7 in the morning ( in bed by 10pm)and climbs into bed to nurse. I would be happy if he would lie back down and sleep more (tall order I know).
Most nights he goes to bed without nursing or little 5 min nurse cuddle session.
Afternoons he nurses a little bit before his nap. So alot of his nursing is tied to sleeping.

How long did your child nurse...did they self ween?
Is there a way to help him along?
Any advise or stories are most appreciated.

Thanks
Marley's Mommy
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September 18th, 2009, 08:10 PM
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ALL I can offer is hugs hun...my 30 month old Ds is still nursing & no end in sight - he still asks to nurse A LOT. Sometimes it is pretty taxing, but most days I can just roll with it. You might try out the nursing past one year board as well for this question if you haven't already. I think each child is pretty unique as to when they self wean. The only weaning advice I knwo is to target one nursing at a time that you want to eliminate, work on skipping that one & stick with that until that one is no longer missed & then try dropping another.

GL whatever you decide to do!
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September 19th, 2009, 03:50 AM
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First great job nursing for such a long time. You have really done a great thing for Marley.

Just one thing popped into my mind, have you discussed weaning with him? I dont really know how smart 29 month olds are already so I might just be giving you a silly advice. Thing is that I remember some mama (forgot how old her LO was) really discussing weaning and preparing her LO for it. I think they did that for quite a while but when they finally had the final nursing session the LO was very ready for it.
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September 19th, 2009, 06:14 AM
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My older two breastfed until age 3. By that point theyw ere old enough to discuss weaning and I resorted to bribery - they got a sticker every day with out breastfeeding and 2 weeks later a big toy. Maybe not the best solution, but mine were never self weaning. DD was almost 3 1/2 at which point it just started to feel too old to me. DS was only a bit past 3 but I was pg again as well.
Ian is only 13 months so we have a long way to go.
Dont count on weaning meaning sleeping in though, he will most likely just get up to play around the same the time! Sorry I cant be more help, the only other thing I can advise is trying to cut out one feeding at a time. Dont let me discourage yo on self weaning though, your son may very well self wean at some point, mine just didnt, just as they didnt go to sleep in cars like other babies etc...
each child is different as mentioned by other posters.
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September 19th, 2009, 08:01 AM
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First great job nursing for such a long time. You have really done a great thing for Marley.

Just one thing popped into my mind, have you discussed weaning with him? I dont really know how smart 29 month olds are already so I might just be giving you a silly advice. Thing is that I remember some mama (forgot how old her LO was) really discussing weaning and preparing her LO for it. I think they did that for quite a while but when they finally had the final nursing session the LO was very ready for it.
I have mentioned to Ds that someday he isn't going to nurse anymore & he just laughs at me....LOL
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You don't raise heroes, you raise sons. And if you treat them like sons, they'll turn out to be heroes, even if it's just in your own eyes. ~Walter M. Schirra, Sr.
A man loves his sweetheart the most, his wife the best, but his mother the longest. ~Irish Proverb
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Children need love, especially when they do not deserve it. - Harold Hulbert
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September 19th, 2009, 01:34 PM
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Hi Mommies,
I thought I could go all the way with nursing..and I can. I am just wondering if there is a healthy way I can help him along. Marley co-slept with my husband and I up until his second birthday or so. Now he sleeps in a crib next to our bed. Morning nursing is the one that is the most challenging. He wakes up at around 6 or 7 in the morning ( in bed by 10pm)and climbs into bed to nurse. I would be happy if he would lie back down and sleep more (tall order I know).
Most nights he goes to bed without nursing or little 5 min nurse cuddle session.
Afternoons he nurses a little bit before his nap. So alot of his nursing is tied to sleeping.

How long did your child nurse...did they self ween?
Is there a way to help him along?
Any advise or stories are most appreciated.

Thanks
Marley's Mommy
Congratulations on breastfeeding to this point! My dd is still bfing too with no end in sight. (That's hard most days for sure. I read as a coping tool but I know meditation can help too.) If your goal is to encourage some more weaning: WEANING: WHAT DOES IT MEAN? might help.

Good luck!
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September 20th, 2009, 07:28 PM
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My DD turned 3 in July and is still nursing. However, she just nurses once a day (before bed), and is starting to get to the point that she doesn't ask every night, anymore. When I was pregnant and right after DD#2, we transitioned her out of nursing to sleep. That has helped greatly, I don't mind her nursing, even a few times a day if she wants, since she doesn't need it to go to sleep anymore.
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