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Eva is almost 1 now.. turning 1 oct 18th. and still going strong with breastfeeding which i am very happy about... but it makes me sad at the same time.. because i stopped BFing my first DD at 4 1/2ish months old.. she got her first two bottom teeth at 4 months old and just did NOT seem to understand not biting and i was to quick to give up..
and so every month past that with eva ive seen things i missed out on with my first DD.. I love how when she nurses now shes so calm and snuggled up to me and just looks around with her big curious brown eyes.. i love that she will laugh at me while shes nursing.. i love her hands rubbing my sides and stroking me or my shirt.. and how even though shes walking and running around and climbing on everything, that for those few minutes while nursing she becomes my little baby again..
*siiiigh* i wish i hadnt missed it before
~Em, Married to Matt since 7/3/04. Mommy to Layla 3/29/06, Eva 10/18/08, Zeke 2/4/11 and Jonah 7/28/13
I feel the same way all the time. My older kids were all weaned by 8 months or sooner and I feel guilty b/c of how much I love nursing Bella. She is just a much more cuddly baby than my others were and I honestly think she NEEDs the nursing more than they did. They weaned when they were ready, Bella is just not yet.
Don't beat yourself up. Having kids is all about learning what works best for you and your child. What works with one won't work with another all the time
I can sort of relate. I couldn't bf my oldest daughter (she was our foster daughter for 18 months before we adopted her). I feel like I missed out on a whole different relationship with her.
But I do remind myself that she got a whole lot more of my time and attention than Josephine does because she was my only baby then.
It is fun nursing an older baby though. When I'm lying on the floor across the room from her I'll catch her eye and flash a boob. It's so cute and sweet how she'll drop whatever she's doing and crawl over to me as fast as she can.
I know how you feel. My 1st 3 children were only nursed 3-4 months each because I was a single parent, working full time, and just didn't have the support. My last 3 children all self weaned (at 14 mos, 16 mos, 14 mos) and with each one I've felt how much I missed with my 1st 3 children. I love All of my children with all of my heart, but the bond is different between me and the 1st 3 that were only nursed a short while and that I was away from for so much time compared to the 3 that nursed over a year and I was a sahm with from the time they were born. At times I feel guilty that my 1st 3 didn't get me 100% like the youngest 3 do, but at the same time - I had to do what I had to do and if I didn't work all those hours to support them, they wouldn't be here with me today.
Parenting - to me - is a Huge lesson in life. I think everyone out there who has more than 1 child did things a little differently with their 2nd than with their 1st. Our children are here to teach us just as much as we are to teach them. I'm having my 7th baby and all 6 children before him have taught me something or another about parenting and have shown me what I need to keep the same, and what I need to do differently. And someday, they can take those lessons that we've learned and apply them to their own children
Mom of 3 girls and 6 boys
& never forgetting our angel Tristan ~ lost 2/6/03 @ 20 weeks