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September 28th, 2009, 08:28 AM
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When I tell Kailey to go in time-out she throws herself down on the floor and I have to drag her to time out (holding Nola or something to where I can't pick her up). Drives me nuts. How do I get her to stop doing this? Every time she does this I explain to her why she isn't supposed to do that etc etc... but she keeps doing it. Is this normal? This continuing with a behavior for forever and forever? Is it supposed to change? Does this mean my means of discipline is not working or am I just supposed to keep doing what I'm doing which is continually explaining to her that that in not correct behavior and then some day she'll get it?

I do not have a designated time out spot? I just try to find the closest spot that doesn't have any toys around (because she'll throw).
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September 28th, 2009, 09:03 AM
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Sorry I can't be much help, but Billy used to do the same thing. I just timed myself out instead usually, taking Ian and going into another room. Now he's a bit older, loss of playstation works far better then time outs anyway. Traditional time outs work great for some families, with some children, they just dont though. All I can say is to try to find something that works for you. Good luck
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September 28th, 2009, 10:45 AM
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With all of my kids I would have to physically pick them up and place them in time out. I would also sit with them until they were calm. Most of the time it only took a minute for me to calm them down. I would hold them in a bear type hold and whisper in their ear to calm down so we can talk. After we finish talking and they are calm, I let them know they have to remain there for "x" minutes.

its hard to find something that works for you, but once you do, its so much easier.
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September 28th, 2009, 05:59 PM
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With ds, he doesn't understand time-out, but he does understand having his beloved Sewer Pillow taken away. So we put Sewer Pillow in time-out and set the digital timer for 5 minutes per offence (hitting, kicking, biting, saying "shut up"). The little scamp was really testing me today by repeatedly saying "shut up" after kicking; at one point, within the space of about 1 minute Sewer Pillow earned 110 minutes worth of consecutive sentancing, with no credit for time served

Long story short, if the behavior is getting less frequent then time out is likly "working" but she letting you know how much she dislikes it. But if this an ongoing reaction then I personally would look into other types of consequences.
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September 28th, 2009, 09:06 PM
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With all of my kids I would have to physically pick them up and place them in time out. I would also sit with them until they were calm. Most of the time it only took a minute for me to calm them down. I would hold them in a bear type hold and whisper in their ear to calm down so we can talk. After we finish talking and they are calm, I let them know they have to remain there for "x" minutes.

its hard to find something that works for you, but once you do, its so much easier.
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September 29th, 2009, 05:41 AM
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Sigh. I wish ds could tolerate the bear hug; it would be much more pleasant. Being autistic, hugs are unwelcome unless he initiates them. Being spirited, when he's angry he lashes out physically; and type restraint makes him even angrier.

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September 29th, 2009, 07:10 AM
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w/my 3 yo dd i haveto hold andrestrain her...i do this gently...but she wont go to or stay in time out w/o me making her...soher time outsare on my lap with my arms around her...she hates this...and sometimes isreally thrashing around but it does work...the threat of a TO she straightens up...

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