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September 30th, 2009, 09:24 PM
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I sleep with my 4yo out of necessity, not choice. I don't disagree with co-sleeping, I just prefer to be able to move around the bed.

Anyway, we've been co-sleeping since Memorial Day weekend when we moved into my mom's house. My 7mo is in his crib and I share a trundle with my 4yo. I have the trundle brought up so it makes a sort of king bed. I have to do this otherwise he falls out. But, the way he sleeps is just killing me.

We could literally share a twin bed, but both of us thrash about all night long whether or not we're sharing a bed. I'm worried about his sleep because some days he takes a nap, some not, sometimes he goes right to bed at 7:00 and sometimes it's midnight. He's in a special ed class 2.5 hours a day, so we have to be up in the morning for the bus and most mornings he's not eating because he's not entirely awake.

I don't know exactly what my question is, but I guess I more need to share this with someone. I love that he wants to cuddle right up at night (except of course two nights ago when he leaked through his pull-up and soaked us both and all the bedding), but I also know we both need our sleep.

I also worry that it's been four months and I don't know when we'll be getting our own place.....it will take me getting a new full-time job that pays better than subbing in order for that to happen. Prior to this move, he'd been in his own bed in his own room since he was 10 months old, so, just over three years. My dh lives in another city (long story) and prior to our move, he slept on the couch due to his snoring and my pg with our youngest. So, really, neither of us are used to sleeping with someone.

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October 1st, 2009, 05:37 AM
mgm78's Avatar Zoe's mom Meredith
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could you be in the same room but in two seperate beds? cuddle with him until he sleeps then move to your bed? i hope some of the more experienced (than me) ladies have some advice for you.

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October 1st, 2009, 08:15 AM
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I agree with PP who said try separate beds. Maybe put a mattress on the floor and help him get to sleep there and then you can move to the bed.

Good luck!

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October 12th, 2009, 09:06 PM
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I tried moving the bed and I tried just lowering the trundle that I sleep in, so that I'm closer. He just follows me.

things are getting worse because now he wants to sleep directly on me. Imagine on your back with your LO's head on your belly, but he's also on his back. Basically I'm a pillow for him. He falls asleep then I have to move him.

it's getting increasingly difficult to leave him, he wants to be with me all the time. I used ot have an incredibly independent sleeper. I could just say "bedtime" and he'd grab his loveys, say good night and go. Now, he wants me to lay with him every night. I don't because I have Henry to take care of.

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