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October 11th, 2009, 11:07 AM
Ellemphriem's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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So i feel like a terrible mother right now. We had our Ped appointment on friday....(i had willingly delayed a lot of the vaccines) and she did 7 together.... Well one had 6 in it and the Prevenar (for pneumonia specially now with the flu) which was 1.....(pls don't wanna start vaccine debate - we vaccinate since in Greece in order to go to school you have to be fully vaccinated)........so the problem is the child raised VERY high fever and i had to give her Depon (equal to tylenol i think).....and she spat it and reched it back at me. i was panicked....! I mean i lost it. I yelled at my DH and i was unfair to him and i could get Stephanie to take the medicine....it was 4:30 in the morning and her fever was close to 39,5 celcius....she was kicking and screaming and i was trying to force feed her the medication!.....i mean i have NEVER done anything like that to her before. I know i did it because i had to and because her temperature was spiraling out of control. In the end i managed to do it but it was through a LOT of tears and struggling. I HATE myself ......i am freaking tired because 3 days in a row i slept very little since i was monitoring her closely at night and i was with her all day long. Also we had my step daughter over for the weekend and she ALSO got sick and we had to take her back to her mom.....and last but not least they stole my DH's wallet out of the car today!!!!!!!!!......... I mean ok whatever.......i feel sick and ill and my head hurts and i feel so bad that i forced my baby to do something she didn't want even if it was for her own good......am i the only one that feels like that?

Anything that CAN go wrong WILL go wrong right?

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October 11th, 2009, 11:54 AM
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awwww....great big hugs!!!! I'm sorry she reacted to the vaccines. Bless her little heart! Hoping she's all better now. She wont remember being force fed medicine...she's probably already forgotten....And like you said...it's not like you were forcing something on her she didn't need...it was for her own good....sometimes they are just too upset to realize that or to be able to understand that...even when they are older!!!

I've yelled at my dh when I"m overly tired and upset as well...he takes it in stride adn I always apologize later.....but he does the same thing to me....we both know it's just part of who we are...when we are stressed we lose control.

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We aren't to give a baby milk, berries, or peanut butter. We are to introduce new foods one at a time. But it's OK to inject several viruses, bacteria, aluminum, formaldehyde, phenoxyethanol, animal serum, mercury, squalene and more into an 8 week old? I don't think so.
In order to be healthy it is an unfortunate fact that people must be allowed the opportunity to be ill. I trust my body and those of my children to work correctly against the relatively benign diseases they vax for, and do not trust the ingredients in the vaccinations.
Our choice to not vax isn't based in ignorance, poverty, conspiracy theory and rumor. It's research, common sense, fact and evidence based..something the medical community has largely forgot about.
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October 11th, 2009, 06:15 PM
lmarie13's Avatar Super Mommy
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You are not a bad mom at all! She won't remember it. You did it because you had to, to keep her safe and healthy. I've had to do that once with Ava. She got tonsilitis a few months ago and spiked a 104 degree fever. She was halluncinating and everything. I was afraid she was going to have a seizure. :-( Her throat hurt so bad and she wouldn't drink or take medicine. I had to force it in her. I almost just got the tylenol suppositories but that would have been worse.

The other day Noah choked on a little piece of chicken. Full on choked. Turned blue and everything. I yanked him out of his high chair, flipped him over and did the baby version of the heimlich; after a couple hard swats it came flying out on the kitchen floor. But his back was red, his legs were a little scraped from me yanking him out of his chair. He cried for a minute, then wanted to eat more!! Meanwhile I sobbed through dinner. My husband kept saying it was okay, he won't remember, and most importantly, I saved his life. But I still felt horrible that I had hurt him in the process.

I snap at my husband when I'm tired and stressed too. I think we all do.

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October 12th, 2009, 04:14 AM
mgm78's Avatar Zoe's mom Meredith
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(((hugs))))) you did what you had to for your LO and that is what is most important.

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October 12th, 2009, 04:30 AM
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What a horrible weekend! I hope your LO is feeling better. Sometimes it seems it never rains, it pours. I hope this week will be better for you.

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October 12th, 2009, 11:57 AM
ItalySarah's Avatar Proud Attached Mommy
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I am sorry that you had to go thru that. My oldest one used to hate medicine. I would have to wrestle her every single time to get her to take it. She used to throw it up as well. I hated it. I felt terrible every time I had to give it to her. She is now almost 10 and doesn't remember it at all. She is happy and healthy.

Don't beat yourself up. There will always be things we have to do for them that they will not like but it is in their best interest. I really hope that you are feeling better and that your sweet girl is feeling better too.

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October 12th, 2009, 12:04 PM
Resi's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
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Don't beat yourself up over it. I'm guessing almost every mother would have done the same thing. She needed those meds to bring her fever down.

I have been forcing Oliver to open his mouth so that I can wipe/brush his teeth. Sometimes he lets me and other times he puts up a big fight but it needs to be done.
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