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October 14th, 2009, 09:04 AM
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Bed sharing debated after infant deaths - Bangor Daily News

I am just so torn up about this. These poor babies and families. I HATE that co-sleeping gets blamed for these deaths when no one knows yet what happened.
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October 14th, 2009, 10:50 AM
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That is sad but the article made me so mad

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“If it’s safer, it’s worth it,” said Meister. “It’s really not that much more work.”
This is what they said about crib sleeping, they make it sound like it is all peaches. In my case I intended to put DD into a crib but she just would not sleep in there. It would have been a lot more work involving depriving both of us of sleep and how safe a caregiver would I have been then?

I just wish they would post more about how to cosleep safely with your infant instead of saying that it is dangerous, dont do it.
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October 14th, 2009, 02:10 PM
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ugh. by the end of the article it seemed to imply cosleeping is safe, but you had to get to the end for that! i cannot tell you how many pics i see in my DDC/PR of babies sleeping in cribs, on pillow, face down, with blanket, surrounded by toys
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October 14th, 2009, 03:39 PM
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ugh. by the end of the article it seemed to imply cosleeping is safe, but you had to get to the end for that! i cannot tell you how many pics i see in my DDC/PR of babies sleeping in cribs, on pillow, face down, with blanket, surrounded by toys
I'll just put one or two points here. Not all babies are the same. I don't consider myself lucky that first my daughter always liked NOT to have her territory penetrated very much (which helped her sleep in her own space quickly and much more easily that sleeping with me) and that she always turned on her belly because that is what she liked the most. Also she sleeps with a blanket. Now on the other hand c-sleeping for us has in the end been dramatic ending in the poor kid to wake up every-time i turned, ending in her sleeping less......so for us a crib was the best solution. Her sleep improved dramatically when i started having her a bedtime routine that ended up early at 7:30 with her in her crib with the last bottle. She now sleeps 12 hours straight with one feeding at night.....or early morning whenever she wants. Now i don't know what's safe or not.....but each baby is different and needs different handling. Co-sleeping can be as unsafe as crib sleeping if certain measures are not taken. A lot of babies get smothered...as also a lot of babies die in their crib because they get suffocated for some reason (specially early on). What it all comes down to is that either can be unsafe so we have to do it the best way possible according to OUR baby's needs kwim? SO sad
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October 14th, 2009, 03:42 PM
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Ugh, some of the comments made me so mad.

I feel so sorry for the parents
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I'll just put one or two points here. Not all babies are the same. I don't consider myself lucky that first my daughter always liked NOT to have her territory penetrated very much (which helped her sleep in her own space quickly and much more easily that sleeping with me) and that she always turned on her belly because that is what she liked the most. Also she sleeps with a blanket. Now on the other hand c-sleeping for us has in the end been dramatic ending in the poor kid to wake up every-time i turned, ending in her sleeping less......so for us a crib was the best solution. Her sleep improved dramatically when i started having her a bedtime routine that ended up early at 7:30 with her in her crib with the last bottle. She now sleeps 12 hours straight with one feeding at night.....or early morning whenever she wants. Now i don't know what's safe or not.....but each baby is different and needs different handling. Co-sleeping can be as unsafe as crib sleeping if certain measures are not taken. A lot of babies get smothered...as also a lot of babies die in their crib because they get suffocated for some reason (specially early on). What it all comes down to is that either can be unsafe so we have to do it the best way possible according to OUR baby's needs kwim? SO sad
I agree with almost everything except "a lot" - A lot of babies don't die or get harmed regardless of what the sleeping arrangement is...a rare number do. It really is rare (THANKFULLY) for any infant to die as a result of an accidental death regarding sleeping arrangements.


I am confused by this from teh article though:
10/14/09 | 48 comments
Bed sharing debated after infant deaths


By Christopher Cousins
BDN Staff

BANGOR, Maine — Public health officials in Maine, spurred by three infants who died while sleeping with their parents last week, raised the alarm Tuesday that bed sharing puts babies at increased risk of death from suffocation.
While numerous state and national medical organizations support that position, there is also a strong countermovement that contends that the more than 75 percent of nursing mothers who sleep with their babies at some point are doing nothing wrong.
According to a press release from the Maine Department of Public Safety, three infants died unexpectedly in a four-day period last week. On Oct. 4, a 2-month-old girl in Madison perished in her father’s bed after being placed there by her mother. The next day, a 2-month-old Canaan boy died while sleeping with his mother, and on Oct. 7 a 5-week-old Windsor boy was found unresponsive after sleeping through the night with his mother. He later died at MaineGeneral Medical Center in Augusta.
The State Medical Examiner’s Office has performed autopsies on the infants but will not determine causes of death until additional studies are performed.
“The infants may have suffocated,” reads the press release. “No foul play is suspected.”
Bed sharing between adults and infants is condemned by numerous groups, including the Maine Center for Disease Control, the American Academy of Pediatrics, the National Institutes of Health, the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, and the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission, among others.
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Dr. Jennifer Hayman, a pediatric hospitalist at Maine Medical Center in Portland, helped the State Medical Examiner’s Office conduct a study that found at least 30 cases of Maine babies dying while bed sharing between 2001 and 2006.
“All of them were found on autopsy to not have a specific cause of death,” said Hayman. “Less than 4 percent of the babies in that category had safe infant sleep conditions.”
Those conditions include babies sleeping on their backs on a firm surface in their own crib or bassinet, free of loose bedding, toys and stuffed animals.
Okay so 96% had unsafe sleeping conditions but then it goes on to talk about babies in their own beds...so were the 4% cosleepers - or in their own bed? See it doesn't really make sense.

I just really feel for the parents - no one means to ever put their infants in harms way. I also wish rather than pushing for crib sleeping, they would push for safe cosleeping & let parents make educated decisions about what works best for their families.
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October 15th, 2009, 02:53 PM
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Here is a follow up article - co-sleeping defended.

Probe of 3 infants? deaths may take months - Bangor Daily News
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