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November 6th, 2009, 07:21 PM
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My boy is having AP-related trouble at school. Quick background info: he is autistic, (but verbal) last year he was in one-on-one ABA therapy, then for various reasons he was promoted earlier than I would have liked, into an inclusion class (3 typically developing kids and 3 developmentally disabled kids). He is having trouble adjusing to being on a class with other children, and from what he is able to tell me, virtually every day he has meltdowns or "gets in trouble". He tries to cling to his teacher, and it hurts his feelings that she must keep a certain professional distance, and he's still angry with me for sending him there. So then tonight he asked me why no one looks at him when he cries I know its an ABA technique (planned ignoring) but I feel so sad for him. He also asked why no one holds him when he cries and that just broke my heart I don't know what to do! I really want to just pull him out of school, since we will be homeschooling next year anyway, but is that the right thing to do?
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November 7th, 2009, 11:12 AM
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I won't be of much help because I don't know what you and your precious little boy are going through but it breaks my heart reading that
I may be jumping the gun here, but I say if he's going to end up being homeschool anyway and it's feasible than go ahead and pull him out.
Sorry I can't be of more help, I can only comment on what I would do if it were my child and me in your situation.

Have you talked to the teachers?
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November 7th, 2009, 01:22 PM
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I'd pull him out I am so sorry you have to go through all this
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November 7th, 2009, 03:03 PM
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I am not sure what I would do. I do not know enough about Autism to know if it would benefit him more to stay or be pulled out. Have you talked to him about what he can do to get attention from the teacher? Maybe encouraging that behavior will help.

Is there any way to get him back to the class he was in before?
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November 7th, 2009, 09:08 PM
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Aw man! That is heartbreaking to read!! I also feel completely unqualified to help.. Try talking to fearless from CNTV. Maybe she'll have some ideas?
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