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My almost 5 year old has starting hitting other kids when she gets mad or frustrated. I've tried sitting down and explaining why its not ok to hit. Well that doesn't seem to work, I've also tried time outs and taking things away, grounding.her.from playing outside. She is still hitting! I'm at a loss on What to do, any adived or.input would be great.
My husband is deployed and I think that's playing a huge role into both mygirls acting out. Plus a friend is visiting me with her kids and the kids don't get along well. I really hope she's figures out its not ok. I'm trying to be patient with her but man its hard sometimes
I would guess that your dh's deployment is a big factor. Part of it, I think, is just the age. I'm still new to this myself but what I've seen work is a lot of reflecting feelings ("You're angry about ______!") and subsequently, we enforce 'You hit, you sit' ("You may not hit other people. You need to use gentle hands. If you are unable to do that, you are going to need to sit in your room until you can") and follow through, follow through, follow through. Even if it means moving a child back to their room over and over again, which believe me, can be frustrating , follow through is the most important part of the process.
Eventually they learn that that is the boundary and if they cross it, they will end up in their room. If it's you she's hitting and she continues to come out of the room and continue hitting, remove yourself - it teaches that when you hurt people, they do not want to be around you. With us, I've seen df enforce it enough times that they don't really wander away before they're calm - when they know they're just going to end up back there, they see that our words have power and we mean what we say.
I'm sure it's partially a phase if it's out of character, too. Hope things settle down for you.
*Cautiously and excitedly expecting number two - shhh, if we're friends on Facebook. *