[Jule'sMomInOR]

My daughter gets upset if I try to put her down to cook or do anything. For example, she asks for fruit from the freezer and I set her down for 10 seconds to get the fruit and she screams hysterically. This has been going on about a month. For anyone with older kids, do you remember this being a phase? If so, how long did it last? Is there anything I can do besides wait it out?

We have her with a nanny during the day and sometimes I wonder if this is causing problems because the nanny never has any job but playing with her. When I take over in the afternoon, I have to make dinner, fold laundry, etc. and she gets really upset if my attention isn't 100% on her. It's exhausting.

[ashj_1218]

Actually, we just started going through something similar with DS and DH. I am home all day with the kids and am constantly doing things around the house. DS entertains himself perfectly fine and doesn't have a clinging issue...until DH comes home. Then he literally does the same thing you are talking about, cries when DH puts him down, follows him around the house, wants him to play with him constantly. And I was sorta wondering along the same lines...but in reverse (if that makes sense). DH CAN give him a lot of attention when he is home, so I think DS demands it because he gets less of it from me during the day (at least not in that same intense 1-on-1 way). So maybe your DD is basically feeling the same way...that she gets all that 1-on-1 attention and wants you to continue the trend at night?

I am guessing it is a total stage and she will grow out of it. We have been here for about 2 months, it started shortly after Kieran came along and I think that the change in dynamics was certainly a factor. He seems a little more chill about it if DH gives him some really solid attention when he gets home (like a half-hour) and then does what he wants to do for another half hour. It seems to calm Liam down when he realizes he is still going to get the attention, he just has to also entertain himself. BUT, Liam is also older than your DD, so it might not be as "rational" to her at this age. But still, it seems like a stage.

[mgm78]

yes we went thru that stage. not sure how long it lasted or how it ended, but it is much better now. DD is very good about doing things on her own (coloring, playdoh, dolls, etc) but she does ask me to play with her when i am cooking dinner or working on the computer and gets upset if i say not now.

[hollywoodma]

yup my 17 month old was only ever happy in my arms up until she could crawl, then i c0uld set her down and she would entertain herself for a few minutes. Now that she is older I can distract her with new toys or food for a few minutes. Sometimes I will put spongebob on when I need to get stuff done like cleaning or cooking. I try not to let her watch tv too much, but it's pretty much the only thing that distracts her now.

[Anna2ds]

My one and a half year old is super clingy too and I'm not thrilled about it, hopefully it will pass soon.

[Kathode]

I have not been on here for a super long time. Kinda burnt out on message boards, but I just came back to snoop around and saw this! Once again, Mariah, we have the same life! My little guy is SUPER clingy right now, I can never put him down, I can get nothing done. The Ergo saves me, a lot of the time, as he's satisfied to be on my back when I'm making dinner or whatever. No advice, just sympathy. Pretty sure it's a phase.

[Jule'sMomInOR]

Originally Posted by Kathode

I have not been on here for a super long time. Kinda burnt out on message boards, but I just came back to snoop around and saw this! Once again, Mariah, we have the same life! My little guy is SUPER clingy right now, I can never put him down, I can get nothing done. The Ergo saves me, a lot of the time, as he's satisfied to be on my back when I'm making dinner or whatever. No advice, just sympathy. Pretty sure it's a phase.

I really need to figure out the Ergo back carry! I'm so intimidated to even try but it sounds like it could be my savior.

[Kathode]

Well, I have to admit that I have a ten-year-old assistant . Mia holds him while I attach the straps. I don't know if I could do it alone.

Although I think he could do it alone at this point, I would have to try it.