[Jule'sMomInOR]

How to Raise a Moral, Responsible Child -- without Punishment

"Aren't you "letting him off the hook" if you don't punish? No. That would be using force to "hold him accountable." But that makes him LESS likely to take responsibility if you aren't there as the enforcer.

Instead, you're guiding him to step into responsibility. He learns to reflect on his choices, and to repair the damage he causes. He realizes that his choices either make him--and others-- happy or unhappy, and that he has the power to choose. With your loving guidance, he's beginning to hold himself accountable. Which is what you wanted all along."

[miamor]

that's a really good read. thanks for posting.

[joonzgurl]

Yes, I really enjoyed that! I am, however, afriad of the day I have to put it into action. I am so glad we have this book club to get myself schooled up.

[laurhob]

Thanks for sharing

[HappyHippy]

Good read. I always hate the notion that if you don't punish then the kids just run the house, etc. We guide here too, and when ds1 does make a mistake he says sorry without me telling him too, etc.